Insecure Sister in Law.

Beata...i understand your frustration and being copied all the time but mabe she is not as up to date as you are and has no concept of how things should go together....maybe she has had problems in the past with people making fun of her because of how she did something or what she wore!!! you never know, i think you spending alittle it more time with her to make her feel comfortable shopping online or in shops, malls or other places and helping her become herself then you probably will not have to worry about a copycat! she is not fashionable
maybe you can call what not to wear and let them help her lol
but seriously yea she needs to find herself and with people naggin at her for coping you with not solve nothing but you can help her!
Please let us know what happens!
i hope all goes well once yout alk to her about shopping and joining her while she is looking for something ......take care
~M.

is this your husbands sister? have you tried to talk to her. tell her that you are flattered that she thinks you have great taste but at the sane time let her know it makes you feel weird. tell her that you would be happy to help her in picking things out if thats her prob.
has your husband or hers noticed this? what have they said?
i hope it gets resolved. good luck

Beata,

No wonder she copies you....look how well rounded you are! I know it's hard, but I have to agree with the other woman who says do nothing. Unless your willing to lose the bond bewteen yourself and your brother (possibly). I too have a insecure sister-in-law, but she is truly insecure. She has no children. She cannot tolarate my brother and I spending time together, talking on the phone, or whatever! Really what I am saying is be flattered, not upset! If you can talk to her, try but unless she really respects your opinion, she will get defensive.

Good luck,
E.

My sister is this way. She is highly jealous of me (for reasons that I do not understand to this day). the best thing i have found to date is ignoring her. if you bring it up in any way, she will turn it around to you copying her or in some fashion she will make you look like the bad guy.

my eldest daughter dealt with this from one of her friends. the child copied everything sylvia did - right down to clothes, accessories, etc. she tried talking - the girl turned it to where sylvia looked childish - you know the game where one yells "Quit copying me!!" and the other says it and it goes downhill from there. the only thing that worked was ignoring the situation.

i am sure the family has figured out that the sister is doing the copying and they are most likely hoping to avoid a conflict.

i know it's weird and hard to ignore - but it really is your best bet. she obviously is jealous and has not grown up enough to not play the childish game of copy cat.

There is no doubt she admires you and your taste and would probably be sad to know it bothers you that she chooses the same things you choose. But talking to her politely about the situation will help you understand why and then maybe you can offer to help her develop her own style. Go shopping together and point out outfits and colors that would look best on her. Have you ever watched A&E's What Not To Wear? All she may need is a little encouragment.