Hope everybody affected fared well. Aside from a one-day power outage, we did pretty well. We made it an adventure for my 2 1/2 year old, eating by candle light and telling her the wind was making the trees "dance." We did Playdough by lantern, and hubby built a "bouncy house' out of blankets.
It really is the simple things and back-to-basics in a crisis that bring people and family together. But why?
So last night it hit 30 degrees and hubby was told he got a deal at a hotel which was a rouse. I so wanted to stick it ou instead of dropping $300 for an indoor amusement park lodge. He called it a mini vacation, assured me we could afford it but I just can't get over it.
He said "we are here, I'm tired of driving." But I wanted to call more hotels up the road. The one we originally booked before the indulgement was out of power so we canceled. I called him impulsive, maybe a little mean but I am so over counting pennies and remorsing myself for unemployment!
I am all for sticking it out and being simple. This to me seemed extravagant bc I'm not working. Should I just drop it because he assured me I could afford it? I shut my hole for the sake of my daughter and she did have fun, but to me, she would have had fun someplace cheaper bc it was a new experience.
I obsess over money all the time and I think it's starting to consume me. Not good!
Again, we are blessed to be literally unaffected.
@Marda: I did call about five places but they were booked and had no power. He was told the deal was $150 for two nights and when we got there found out it was $300 for one night! I would have walked out on principal. The place was only 45 minutes away.
Guess I am confused. You lost power only for one day. We're you going to a hotel just for fun or because you lost power again? Either way let it go. Holyn ow in the scheme of things it is nothing. Be grateful you are alive and well
I've driven cross county and I understand your husband's need to just stop driving without searching for a less expensive place. If you want to look for a better price I suggest that you do that ahead of time because when it's time to stop it's time to stop.
Because you're "so over counting pennies and remorsing (yourself) for unemployment," I suggest that you stop counting pennies and remorsing yourself. You can change the way you think and feel. Every time you find yourself thinking such thoughts, stop yourself and remind yourself that your husband is working and he says you can afford it. Let him manage the finances.
After your SWH: I to would be upset about the price change. You tried to find a less expensive place and couldn't so I would let go of my frustration and enjoy the place. Some things cannot be changed. You did all you could do.
The place was only 45 minutes away from your home? If so, I'd probably want to go on home because they did change the price. I would hate to give them the business. At the same time I can understand that your husband had all the driving he could manage. I've been there when I couldn't find a motel/hotel in Montana because of rodeo week. I sat in the coffee shop until midnight opened a room that wasn't claimed.
Later; I think I misunderstood your post. You left home to stay at the resort because it was to be $150/night and it was to be a treat? You weren't traveling. I would be inclined to go back home too, unless I did have the money for that extra. If I had the money, I would be excited to stay. It's a treat that cost more money. The goal was to have a treat.
That is a LOT of money and I hope the hotel was fabulous!
However, if he runs the finances and says you can afford it, I'd let it go. I do the finances so my husband trusts me when I say we can or cannot afford something...or he puts it on his credit card thinking I won't see it.
I would be calling some government official about price gouging. Gas stations do it, hotels do it. There is probably a television station in your area that has info on where to lodge a complaint.
That said, I don't think I have enough info to say either one of you is right.
I can see both points.
You are indeed truly blessed to be unscathed and perhaps you should concentrate on that rather than the 300.00 dollars. You are alive, as are your loved ones, materialistic things and money shouldn't matter. They are replaceable. Perhaps a 2nd job for a few months for you or your husband. The fact that you have it now to spend it where you need it, is a blessing. STOP obsessing and concentrate on the blessings bestowed now.
Money is a great thing to have. It pays the mortgage, it gives you heat and light, it buys what's in the grocery cart, it fills in what the insurance company doesn't cover for repairs after a hurricane. But obsessing about money is *always* counterproductive. Obsessing over money is not using money wisely, whether you have that money or whether you don't!
Think about some things: Is this a trust issue with your husband? Do you resent his being employed (because you're not, weird as that may sound) on some level? Is he usually a responsible person? Can you two sit down and talk about things? I have no idea, of course (and you don't have to answer), so I'm not trying to be accusatory.
But it sounds as if maybe it was a big step for you to agree to your husband's decision, even if you did have to bite your tongue to do it. Impractical as it may sound, I think you made a wise step. Your relationship is worth more than $300. You'll survive ONE night of expense.
The price-going-up business? Nasty. But it happens a lot - supply and demand, I guess. This actually could be one of those incidents that you'll laugh about later on. And hopefully there won't be another hurricane along for a while, so you won't be in this pickle again!
my husband was out of work for a long time. we were getting really down, and realized how bad the economy really is, when it hits you like that. prior to him losing his job i had made all these plans for my kids, a few european countries, visit with family, FL etc. we sat down and talked whether we should just not do any of them. then we decided the future is always like this, unknown, insecure and that if we live like that next thing we know our kids will be all grown and out of our home. i want to cherish every minute with them. we did. we did everything we had planned. and then my husband got a job, and i look back and say thank god we put our faith out there and it worked out. so i say enjoy the small things. yes 300 a night is a lot but in your kid's book...priceless (sound like a commercial)
Hey. Glad your family is healthy and survived. I'm displaced also, my neighborhood has no power. We are lucky to be staying with family nearby that does.
It's extremely frustrating though so I get what you're feeling. I guess yor hubby is doing the best he can but maybe he overcompensated a little? If I were you I'd just swallow it and maybe keep looking for a header place as soon as you wake up. My husband is a GM at a hotel in southern Nassau and its been stressful for him and his staff. Imagine a hotel with power but no phone or Internet. People are coming in, overbooking, and he has no control. He's turning away the elderly because he physically has no room. Maybe that's what you're husband was encountering and he just settled on the indoor amusement park.
More money will be made eventually, just be happy your family is safe and together.
