Your Husband is VERY inappropriate... and I am SURE the other wives of those men... would think so too. IF they knew about their suggestive female Boss.
*Oh and by the way, is this female-Boss Married? Or single? Either way it is wrong... you DO know that, right?
AND... well he AIN'T being "shy" now, is he????
This, is creating a very harmful and potentially abusive work atmosphere... and what about the other women/men... who are "not" in this inner circle of "flirts" and sexually behaved employees?
If that were me... I would be pissed off... would tell my Husband off.. .and in no uncertain terms, tell him he is NOT a teenager and to get a grip. AND how dare he humiliate me and his kids... by acting like that. AND, I would help him pack his bags.
Him being a hard worker is no justification for him doing that or you allowing it. HE is letting it happen, he likes the attention... he is actively participating in their whole dynamics at work... and it happens to be sexual and inappropriate. AND he is doing it CONSCIOUSLY. There is NO excuse for it.
Him giving you the silent treatment... is SOOOOOOOOOOO out of line. How infantile of him. HE is wrong.. NOT you.
I would... DOCUMENT everything, for your own information.. and in case this situation gets legal... at work or others accuse him/them of gross sexual misconduct and discrimination at work... and for how he is corrupting your marriage and family and his sense of being a Dad and husband. Just thinking ahead....
What if the tables are turned. . .and this woman-Boss of theirs starts to "accuse" the men of sexually 'harassing' HER????
Next... how the heck would your Husband feel, if YOU were doing that.. with like the Mail-Man?
Your dear Husband... better be aware... that he is playing a very dangerous "game"... and it involves you too, since he is MARRIED... and if any legality comes of it, or accusations of harassment... it is HIS name/reputation on the line... and yours. YOU and the kids will be affected by it too. HE... is being dumb. Very dumb.
All the best,
Susan