I'm Sooooo Stressed and Need ????

Wow that is awful, you need a day away, hehe
I am 28 and a stay at home mom of 4 year old triplet boys,
And just found out i have a heart problem, and i can relate to the money problem,,, it cost me a little bit of money but i take the kids to this play place near by and there is a parents lounge area, and they pay people to play with the kids. and we can stay all day, i take head phone and something to read or a puzzle book, and i am good for awhile.

Hi S.,
I just saw your post and wanted to offer you a Girl's Nite Out with the Body Shop at Home. You invite your friends and I supply the pampering. You can choose from pedicures to facials and it doesn't cost a thing. You can actually earn free stuff. You should check out my website at www.thebodyshopathome.com/web/aoaks. If you are interested in hosting a girl's nite out you can contact me through my website. It is a very relaxing experience with nature inspired products that are fabulous. I have also heard wonderful things about the book "The Secret" I haven't read it yet, but my mother raves about it. I also wanted to ask if you have ever tried yoga? It kinda goes along with the meditation, but there are moves that are supposed to ease your mind and relieve stress. I do yoga often and it really does calm my nerves and makes me feel a little more stable.
Good luck to you.

Go here to find local moms' groups you can join: http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/dir/Regional/U.S._States/Indi...

Good luck:)

Buy the book The Secret. It changed my life. I used to be so stressed out and at my wits end. If you don't have time to read it, watch the DVD. Best investment I ever made. Good luck! God bless!

Every parent needs a little "ME" time. Life is stressful, add a job, kids, medical issues, and just the natural hustle and bustle of the world...yeah...it's enough to drive anybody nuts. Take a hike. No, for real...put on your gym shoes, load the kids up in the a stroller or drop them off at a friends house for an hour or two and take a really brisk walk, maybe add some of your favorite music in a walkman or something. It's good excercise and it will give you the alone time that you need to either let your mind go blank or think about the things that you want to think about and even better...it's completely free. And if you do this on a regular basis, you may want to do a swap thing...leave your kids with a friend that has kids for like 2 hours once a week and then relieve her for 2 hours once a week...then she gets to have a break too. During bad weather, you can go to the mall to take your hike.

Sorry... but all I can give is this: meditate and maybe explore some herbs. You need grounded/balanced. I understand your life is ruff, begin with taking care of YOU!

Hello! I know how you feel about being broke! I can not imagine going through all that you have been through medically. The one thing that is becoming very apparent to me as I get older is that everyone has their own story! We all have issues. Mine happens to be with a dysfunctional family growing up! They are still very dysfunctional. I have also been learning that those are simply circumstances. Our circumstances don’t have become who we are but rather what we have learned. I should also note that I have a wonderful husband and two great kids.

I myself have found it very hard to find away to escape and relax. Even when I get the chance I feel guilty for giving up that time with my family. I love going to the local community center to workout but can’t seem to get myself there in the limited evening hours that I am able to go. Okay so I don’t love going but I feel much better after I have been. I can’t even use the “broke” excuse because it is only $50 for the whole year and it has already been paid…lol! So maybe if you have the means and are able you could try that.

The reason that I write you is to let you know what has truly worked for me. Being that I was in a dysfunctional family I was not exactly raised in a church setting. I have been to countless churches looking for one that I could invest myself in. I have never felt truly comfortable in any that I had visited. I thought many were very judgmental.

Well my mom had gotten herself into some pretty big legal trouble and was made to live in a work release facility. She has always been in trouble. I had all but given up on her! This work release facility allowed her passes out to work and to go to church. Well of course she wanted to start attending church. She told me this and there was a church that I had heard a lot about so I thought one last chance with her. I thought I would try to spend some time with her and attend this church with her. Little did I know I was a blessing that would help me more than I knew!

I don’t want to get all “religious” on you but I did want to share my story with you. From the very first time that I went to that church I felt at ease. The music was awesome. It was a come as you are style of church. Many say that but this church truly means it. The worship was right on key with everyday life. It was easy to follow and very moving.

Well that was almost a year ago. I have missed maybe three Sundays since I started going. My mom goes nearly every Sunday and not because she can but because she loves it. I thought that I would have to change everything about my life to be a religious person but I am finding that I haven’t changed anything that I would miss. My husband says it has done wonders for my mental health…lol…and he is not kidding. It has not changed who I am but it has changed my tolerance towards things that we can’t change. It has reminded me to be more kind to people. It has reminded me that everyone has a story and deserves love and respect. My Sundays afternoons have become my way to renew myself.

With all of that said I invite you to my church…..The Vineyard Community Church in Greenwood just off of Madison Ave. There are four services….Saturday night at 6pm and Sundays at 9am, 10:45am, and 12:30pm. You can check it out at www.vineyardindiana.org. I go to the 12:30 so I can sleep in! I am just a member not a spokes person...lol..even thought it kind of sounds like it!
Good Luck and God Bless!
B.

maybe take a walk in a park by yourself?

If you like to read or have something that you want to read up on, you could go to barnes and noble and just sit and read a book. :) Ive gone and if there's no chairs, I just sit in the Isle! Or I find that if I go for a drive out in the country that helps or bundle up and go for a walk in the park. I learned that just 20 minutes of walking releases seretonin in your brain and can make you happier!
Hope these help!
A.

S.
I do feel for you and can relate as I am having major health issues myself. I have found that staying up after everyone goes to bed I have time for just me. i can take a long hot bath, read a book or even play games online. But that is not feasible at times. there are times throughout my day I jsut want to get away, i go to the local library and sometimes just get a book and just sit there or I go for a drive, if I am able to drive that day. Now that my youngest is in kindergarten, they offer moms day out nights and I try to take advantage of those nights, depending on how I am feeling, sometimes I take "ME"time in my bedroom, shut my door lock it and put a DO NOT DISTURB sign unless house is on fire or someone is being killed on my door, sometimes i just lay in the dark or watch what I want for a change. I hope you find a solution to help you. All moms give great advice, hope you can find that one works for you. Keep us informed. Also you can turn to God and ask him for help. I have gotten to were I like to watch the 700 Club and see what they have to say and even got into reading the bible to find inner peace and healing for myself. Good Luck to you.

I agree, Moms need time to themselves every now and then and perhaps an evening out is just the refresher for you. I agree with the other two responses about meeting at a Moms group or talking walks. There are also other measures one can take to prevent coming to a point of needing escape. I am suggesting finding an outside activity each week that will allow you an opportunity to put everything aside and promote you while recognizing thoughts that take us to our wits end. It's just a little note to consider while finding something in your area to do at minimal costs.

Hi S.,
I found a new outlet to get away from it all. My public Library. It dosen't cost anything to get a card, only if you loose it! You can go in and get on the computer, sit in a quiet room and listen to tapes or music. Libraries often offer Reading programs, where the kids could sit and listen while you are in another area catching up on the news or reading a book that interests you. Our library is open till 8:00 most nights. It may sound boring, but it's a quiet, free option full of choices.
I also agree with some of the other options that have been sent to you, such as walking.
I don't see where you are in a relationship, so I don't know if you get help or time away from your kids, I hope so! But if not, getting them involved with the library might work. My son was ADD and when he was 3-7, he loved to go there and read and do puzzles.
Good luck to you.
N.

just wondering where you live, i live in muncie, and we have amoms group that gets together once a month, just to be with other women february will be our second one, and the first one was fun and this may be even better i hope...there are about 7 members, but some just havent been able to get together stillnot sure howmany willbe there in feb...but hoping for more than in january and for our group to continue to grow

L.

Ask God for help...If you want Him to help, he will.

--K.