T.F.
I can really relate to you as I have 5 children, and one due in 3 weeks. Repeat after me, y ou are not going to get everything done, ever while they are little. Some ideas to keeep you sane-
1. Reduce the amount of toys, clutter in their rooms to start with, throw out broken ones, donate others, then with what is left bag up half and store somewhere out of sight (closet, shed, basment) YOu can bring in these "new toys" every 6 months or so and they will think it is great.
2.Make sure you have easy bins, containers,shelves, or bins so they can put their toys away easier on their own. Try to make toy cleaning a game. Set a timer for a race, or give little treats if they pick up fast!
3. Same with laundry, as you do it, make sure you sort things that do not fit, are torn ect.. less outfits mean, less laundry to pile up or for the kids to get into in their dresser, closet ect. to make a mess with. Each of my kids have a certain color of socks to help me sort, for your twins I would pick the same as long as they are the same gender. For instance Hanes have white socks with diff colored Hanes writing on the toe (pink, blue, green). I do not match socks either- as I am folding out of the dryer- I lay their socks in their pile, they just grab two out of their drawer, because they are all the same, when they are getting dressed.
4. Some other simple ideas, buy a crockpot, make simple meals, one dish casseroles, alum foil packet meals in the oven- for less dishes.
5. Splurge on paper products when they are on sale-less dishes. Use them when you need a break.
6.If you can afford it, hire someone to deep clean for you once a week, floors, bathrooms ect. I have someone come over about twice a month for 2-3 hours each time and she charges $10 hour. It is worth it to me-even if I have to be careful in other areas of my budget. It is worth it to my husband to have a relaxed wife and a clean home.
7. See if you have any friends who will help you with bigger projects. The benefit of this is you get to visit with another adult, get something done ect.. You can go to her house and return the favor. Maybe you could do this 1-2 months.
The main point is to make your life easier. Label spots for them to hang their own coats up at the door, shoes ect.
They are little, but it will get better as they get older and are able to do more of the heavy duty chores like mopping,dishes ect. Like my 7, 10 and 13 year old do.
Good Luck!