Im Preagnet Again...

You and I could almost be twins! DS is a little of 3, DH and I have been married 4 and a 1/2 years, and our journey to #2 started in May of '06! We are 10 weeks along now (Due about 11/14) and I am haveing the same exact doubts! "Am I going to be able to handle a new baby waking inthe middle of the night while caring for my (then) almost 4 year old?" "Am I REALLY going to love tis child as much as I love my son?" "Will DH and I adapt to being the parents of 2 instead of just one?"

I think we are both normal! I think we are both exhusted from a long road of trying and keeping up with an active preschooler! I think you and I will both fall in love with and adapt to our long wait for miracles!

Congratulations!

I have a daughter your age and had another last year (mine are almost exactly 3 years apart). I have no doubt that it will all come back to you. Go to Babies R Us and have a look around. Some of the products are new. Some of it you will remember that you used and liked or found it unnecessary. I found after I did this, I felt more confident. Having 2 kids is different, but you have successfully raised a 4 year old (and have done a good job, I'm sure). Your daughter may have some concerns about being a big sister. My daughter loved I'M A BIG SISTER by Joanna Cole. It helps her know how she will fit into the new family and what to expect from a baby. In preparation, we let Meaghan practice with a baby doll in the bassinet. Congrats!

Congratulations! I think I know what you are talking about. You wonder what in the world you are doing! LOL I think it is hormones. I would just focus on the beautiful thing going on in your body! Your fear might also be because you are at the beginning of the morining sickness and it's a road you have to go down and get through? Remember one day at a time. What a beautiful baby you have in the end and so worth it! It's funny, with the first it's all so new. When you have your second and others it really, for the most part, becomes second nature. It's amazing how more relaxed you really are.

Congratulations again! and enjoy your pregnancy!

LOL P.! I'm totally laughing with you, not at you. You're scared because you KNOW what you're in for. I experienced this, and I know what you're talking about. Having a newborn is tough work.

We're currently expecting our third baby next month, and the other night while in Babies R Us, a newborn started to do that "newborn wail." My husband's eyes got huge, and he stood stock still, like he was being hunted! LOL I felt the hair stand up on the back of my neck, too. We know that sound, and what it means! LOTS OF WORK, but lots of rewards, too.

Congrats! Enjoy!

I had my second baby, in my 40's. We wanted another one. Yes, I was nervous too, and had all those SAME feelings you are having now. It's normal. Don't feel bad at all.

When the new baby comes, you will be totally ready. It will all come back to you. My daughter was also 4 years old when I had my second baby. It's a great age spread, and being an "older" sister... at that age, they can actually help you, since they are more mature at this age. It will all work out.

Yes, be prepared to wake up nights for feedings again. And have Hubby help you with everything he can. But having a 2nd baby is great. I am so glad we have ours. The feelings you have are normal. Don't worry.

take care and pamper yourself... all will be fine.
Good luck,
~Susan
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Hi P.

I know what your going through. I felt the same way when I got pregnant with my second baby. The first one was an "accident" and I felt so fine with it and my husband and I were very young. Then 5 years later we decided we wanted another one. It took 9 months for me to get pregnant and then when I finally did, I got scared and nervous. I didn't know why but I was second guessing if I had done the right thing. I was thinking about our oldest and how it would affect her and I was worrying if we could really afford another one, and if I could possibly love another child like I love my daughter. But the fears subsided and I just said I have to take it one day at a time. And let me tell you when she was born, it was instant! I was in love with this beautiful little baby girl I had just given birth to. I had forgotten, after all it had been 6 1/2 years since I had given birth, just how it feels to look at your newborn baby and feel your heart swell with this massive love. It sounds corny but it's a beautiful thing. You'll be great, I know it. The feelings will pass as you start getting bigger. You'll feel more excited. You don't ever forget how to be a mom. I promise everything comes back to you when that baby is born. You'll protect her with your life, just like the first time. Good luck and don't worry, Your a great mom. Don't doubt yourself.