OK so we're going to his familes Christmas party in a few weeks, and the adults do polyanas and everyone gets the kids gifts i'm told. They asked if we were coming and I said yes, but I'm a tad worried that since last year we were so new we didn't do holidays together that I will go and she will hand presents to all the other kids and feel left out that she didnt get any. I know his mom said he got her a present b/c she showed M. it so it may not be an issue at all, but i'm not sure his mom gives the presents out on christmas or if this party is only for the aunts and ules to give out presents. His family is so sweet, but I'm J. nervous for her. Has anyone gone through this? Shes still shy around them because she doest know them that well so I'm worried that she;ll be upset if it turns out that she was overlooked.
i dont think its likely shell be left out. I don't think they are cruel at all, i think quite the opposite, i think its very unlikely..but i'm still worried of the possability, but i dont know who knows she will be there. I rememebr the year I brought my nephew (step nephew) to his first xas party at my ex's and he was 3 and we got him a preset but noone else realized he'd be there except my ex's parents. So he had 2 small gifts when the other kids had huge piles and I felt horrible for him being the new kid and watching everyone else.
If you're on good terms with your boyfriend's mother, then ask her to walk you through the evening so that you know what to expect. Let her know you're a little nervous this year since it's the first year you and your daughter are joining the family together.
Troy and I started dating at the end of October, November we did Thanksgiving with his family and for Christmas we brought the kids.
Thing is I told them this is Christmas, we are not family, don't expect anything. Really I shouldn't expect something, ya know? All of his family had gifts for my kids, maybe not as spectacular as the gifts for family but they weren't left out at all.
I guess I am saying prepare for nothing and then everything is gravy. :)
Well it will certainly say something about his family if they are so cruel as to not include her. If you think that this could legitimately happen perhaps bring a gift of your own and ask your bf to make sure it's given to her when the others are getting theirs.
Ask your BF to call his mom and ask/remind her to keep your daughter in mind. It sounds' like she is super sweet but it's the holidays - people get busy and forget things. A small reminder is appropriate.
I agree with Andra. Cover your bases and J. get her a gift to take J. in case that does happen. She will know that you and your bf care.
Wrap something small and keep your purse J. in case!
