J.Y.
Hi, J., my name is J., I have 2 boys ages 8 & 5 1/2. Well honey the only way to solve this sleeping arrangement is tough love. My youngest always towards the middle of the night end up in our bed, so what we did was kept our bed room door shut. He was scared of the dark, so we ended up keeping the hall or bath room lights on with their bed room door open. They are still very young,so if you nip it in the butt now at this age, it should be fine. The children have each other to sleep with & there fore they should feel comforted. You must be strong, I know they are your little babies, but mom & dad need each other & grown up quality time as well. I hope I helped some. Let me know how it goes!