No one told me how hard it was mentally to be a mom. I know it is hard financially but I was not ready mentally. It has been hard, on me and I have gotten to the point of being hypochondria. I feel drain,I don't have energy to do anything at all. Every time my daughter coughs or sneezes im panicking, or asking her how she feels. This is not the life I want for my child, I want her to be a happy child not have a mom all over her suffocating her. I hope that the meds they are going to give me make me feel better.
oh, sweetie. It's not shameful to go on medication for these things, and I'm glad you realized that you need help and are getting it.
Being a mom IS hard. Super hard.
Don't be afraid to tell your doctor every single thing that you are feeling and ask for referrals to talk to others as well.
You obviously love your baby.
Do what you need to do to take care of yourself.
Your little one can only benefit from a healthy you.
Bless you and best wishes.
You may want to talk to your physician about getting blood work done. So many things from Thyroid, adrenals to perimenopause can add to how you are feeling! Your feelings are very valid and I hope you are able to get to the root of it no matter what the cause! Take care, T.
I just got put on Zoloft myself because of my anxiety and stress because my DD was in the hospital for the 1st month of her life and I was not sleeping cause I was so worried her colostomy bag was leaking!! Its the first time in my life that I was put on pills for that kinda stuff but you know what? I feel awesome now. I dont snap at my DH or toddler anymore and im sleeping and not worried about my DD's bag leaking at all hours now, I can actually sleep. Being a mom is super stressful and Im sure pills would help you out!
I was put on Lexapro for anxiety. It helped me a lot. I know how you feel.
Good for you!
It's too bad there is such a stigma surrounding mental health. I mean, you wouldn't just wait at home hoping that your broken leg would heal and you certainly wouldn't try to talk yourself out of having cancer. No - for both of those instances you would see a specialist who is trained to care for your condition.
Start with your primary care physician or your gynecologist who can recommend a psychiatrist for you. When you see the psychiatrist, definitely request counseling (preferably one that specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy) services from a therapist, licensed clinical social worker, or someone with whom you can meet regularly to also discuss your issues. Medication and counseling should go hand in hand so that you can start feeling better.
Best wishes to you and you're a smart mom for reaching out and realizing you need assistance. Keeping my fingers crossed for you :)
You already know what your problem is. You already know you are being irrational. I dont think drugs are going to fix that for you. You'll just be taking something you dont really need. I think you should talk to a psychologist or even your pediatrician about your "fears". Let them help you put them in perspective. Taking depression meds is bad for your brain, kidneys and liver. You will get stressed out when you see your bottle of pills getting empty too. Please just try some "talk it out" therapy before allowing them to drug you up with happy pills that dont really change any of the real circumstances anyways. jmo
go get the meds!! I had bad anxiety!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Medication helped and now I am on the lowest dose possible....You'll be amazed that it can help you get back on track. Talk to your doc asap :)
((hugs))
No matter whether someone tells you what it will be like, even if they are honest, it doesn't really mean anything until you right there in the middle.... then, we do really understand....
In addition to the meds, you might want to get some talk therapy, to help with dealing with your feelings. The meds can help the overwhelming-ness of the feelings, but talking to a therapist can really help you to deal them and/or redirect them so that they are lessened in a non-medical way.
It can also help to get breaks from your kiddo, and go to "me" stuff, that is just about you. Even taking a 30 minute bath with a good book, or taking a walk or visiting with a friend and talking about non-kid stuff can help. Find a hobby, or take some classes at the parks & rec center/local Y can help. Also, finding a mom's group, or good friend whom you can share with and not feel judged can be a huge thing.
I understand. I have anxiety issues too and worry about my kids. I can't take meds and I pray every time I feel anxious. I've read some good books too about anxiety and depression. Good luck!
Get your thyroid checked first! My DD is almost two, and I still feel "off". I found out at the beginning on the school year that I have some problems with my thyroid. I also have a genetic disorder that messes witht the amount of b6 and b12 my body absorbs. I do feel somewhat better, but still feel like an empty shell most days. I'm planning on seeing a specialist asap, and I suggest you do the same if your dr. says you do have thyroid problems. I know that it sure does control a lot, and I know that having kiddos messes up most women's thyroid.
There are some very strong meds out there that some people need to take but the majority of people who need to take something are on very small doses. If your leg was broken people wouldn't expect you to "just get over it." If your brain isn't producing the correct chemicals or isn't using them properly you need medical help. Talking can and does help but it's not enough for some people. Your doctor won't give you a medication that will all of a sudden make you happy. That type of thinking is what gives people with depression a stigma if meds are needed. It's very hard to figure out which med is right for a person. It can be a lot of trial and error but when you get it right it really can help you get back to the person you were before depression set in. Pleaae let us all know how you are doing. Good luck!! If you want you can pm me and I can tell you a little bit more of what I know.
It is extremely hard to be a mom both mentally and physically. I am on klonopin right now for anxiety, stress not sleeping I was exhausted. I am not ashamed of being on it, I can sleep I am not freaking out like I usually do (husband is also a cop working graves so with my anxiety this just added to my stress) One thing I will tell you is that if you do get medication for anxiety it will more than likely be in the benzo family which is highly addictive! I was not aware of this until I had started and I wanted to get off because im feeling alright but now im scared to go through withrdrawls and I have the program my dr put me on to taper off but i havent started it yet. Just be aware that this might not be a off again on again thing it might be something that you could get addicted to.
sounds to me like anxiety, check for that, the symptoms can be similar. good luck sweetie, someone will have an answer for you.
I would try counsoling, mom support group, or something different before you start anti dep meds. It can make a world of difference for you to have someone have your back and be there to take a phone call to ask questions until you ease your mind that your doing everything right. Being a mom is trial and error. We all have our trials and we all over react and that is what is being a mom, it does not mean that you are depressed. Just overwhelmed. Maybe get some blood work done for energy and thyroid and stuff, but get support of other moms and you will get through this.
