Im Confussed ???

Nope, I am with you on this one. I think that the girl should have been punished.

If he had put his hands on her, different story. If she was annoyed she should have told the teacher. The only other way I could see this happening is if the kid got into her face and really frightened her, but that doesn't sound like the case. We all have fight or flight instincts, and if she was scared her fight might have taken over....again, I don't believe that to be the case. She just got angry.

I noticed that, too. I answered both, and I believe that my answers were consistent.

I did not see the Self Defense question - here is the thing - legally do not take the first punch unless you can with out a doubt proove you fear for your life. I do not agree that the little girl should have gone near his groin - PERIOD.

Didn't read them both but off the top of my head a child is not expected to fully control their temper, an adult is.

Looking at the other answers I feel like I must have missed something in the child question. I do know the adult version was vague, very vague. With just the information provided an adult should have be able to control their temper.

Thing is as an adult no matter what someone says to us we are adults, we control our temper, we don't strike out. As children we didn't have that control. I am assuming that the boy ignored her verbal warnings to leave her alone so she struck out physically. Two lessons so they can evolve into adults, little girl, you don't hit people, little boy, when people tell you to leave them alone you leave them alone.

Now I guess I need to find that post and edit this again. :p

Okay so after reading it the school did the right thing. He said make me, she did. They are kids.

Yes it's a double-standard thing. I'm with you. Any violent behavior, no matter the circumstances or people involved, is bad and wrong. Violence will only escalate things...not exact justice.

I'm not sure. I answered both questions with violence isn't appropriate and the little girl should get in trouble, just like the adults in the other if they resort to violence.

I wouldn't have had two completely differing answers at all. That little girl was wrong for kicking that boy, end of story. Her parents need to teach her a lesson on self control, and she should have handled that WAY differently. She knew better.

And as for adults, well that's a no-brainer.

Even if we're talking about preschoolers, it's still a no-brainer! Kids might be less likely to use impulse control, but it's still our job to teach them that hitting is never OK.

I don't think anyone validated the nut-kicker, but due to the boy's annoying reputation we were able to assume "why" she may have decided to kick him.
There is a lesson to be learned here and I think those two moms should get together and have a chat....maybe the school could arrange that for them?
The kids are KIDS and are LEARNING how to be adults, this would be a lesson in self control.

My thought process here is that (and I did not see Rebeccas post so only going off of what you wrote)....

1. Adults can control their actions and know better than to take violent action against another human...unless their life is in danger or they are protecting themselves.

2. Many children are not able to control themselves in anger. While this is just an excuse it is still non the less going to happen. While it does't mean that the action they take i.e. the girl kicking the boy was not an appropriate choice...it is the choice she made with the knowledge she knows.

So yes...I think that you are going to get two different answers to the question because of the age appropriateness for the individuals.

Two different situations, so you get different answers. Not to say I agree one way or the other, but there was a difference in each of the requests.

For one, who's to say the girl wasn't being threatened, cause if that is the case, then both responses have the same answer.

This is how I feel, and I teach my kids this..
1) You dont let ANYBODY put their hands on you, if somebody is walking up to me, threatening me, or of they look likey are gonna lay honads on me, Im going to punch them first. Simple as that. Why should it take for them to possible knock me out to defend myself.
2) you dont fight for no reason. If somebody is messing with you. Thats fine, unless they threaten you, or do something to cause bodily harm, keep your hands to yourself.

So my rule is this, If somebody is bothing me or my kids, thats fine... But if I feel an element of danger.. you might get knocked out. But as far as hitting to kicking for no reason.. NO.
And people can look at me how ever they want, My thoughts wont change.
And if you do hit me or my kids... expect to be hit 2 times harder. A llittle girl puched my daughter at the day care, and my daughter punched her. I wasnt upset, I was upset that nobody was watching better, but Am i going to mad that my daughter defended herself... No.
Some people think its best to turn the other cheek, but when you do that, you might get hit on that side too.. IMO

I didn't read any of the other answers, but with my kids I tell them it is only ok to hit if you are being attacked (physically) I don't think violence is the answer but I want my kids to feel like they can defend themselves if needed.

I've been dealing with this in my preschool class lately. Some of the kids have parents who teach them that if someone hits you, you hit back. (Some of the kids have parents who hit them. Those are the angry, impulsive kids.)

I teach them that at school, it's not okay to hit. If someone hits you, walk away and get a teacher to help you. If Jonny says something mean, and then Bobby hits him, and then Jonny hits him back -- augh. Then they will BOTH be angry, physically hurt, and emotionally hurt. The problem will not be solved, it will be worse.

I work hard all year teaching kids how to use their words, and how to solve problems peacefully. I do tell them that the rules might be different at home, but at school, we don't hurt people.

That girl was wrong to kick your son. She should have gone to a teacher for help, so that the teacher could talk to your son about not bugging people.

Different people with different opinions on different threads. What do you mean "how can we have different answers" between threads? I'm confused as to whether or not you're actually looking for an answer here or are asking people to account for other people's posting habits and guess why they might answer in different ways in differing situations.