Hi!
This is my first time here! Really the problem is more recent. Like this past week. I am 30 years old (as is her mother, my twin!), and the little girl I am going to be speaking on if 2 and a half. Basically over the past week, we went from inseperable to her yelling "NO!" every time I enter the room or ask her nicely to do something. I'm a really nice and kind person, I think. She's even hit and pushed me a couple of times. Sometimes it really hurts my feelings... Is this just a phase? What should I do?
P.
When you are 2 yrs old the answer to everything is NOOOOO!!!! It's just a phase. When she hits make sure to let her know that hitting is bad and she shouldn't do it. Is there an activity she really likes? You might try doing something she really like without asking her to participate and then asking her if she'd like to play along.
it's a phase....they don't call it terrible two's for nothin'!
As a mother of two and a step-mom of 1, I have experienced similar moments with all 3 of my kids. At this age they are experimenting just how far they can push the envelope, just make sure that when she hits you let her know it' not ok to do this. Hold on to her hand after she's hit you, get on your knees so you are at eye level with her, look at her and explain why this is not ok. Give her a few moments to process
the info you have given her and try to start again. Try bringing something she enjoys, like a game with you, see her reaction and pending that reaction say "I guess you don't want to play hi-ho cherry-o with me" and back away....or "oh what a great greeting, thank you for my kiss and hug, I brought a game we could play together, wanna play".....Good Luck!! And remember, after the terrible two's come the thundering three's..(smiles and a wink)
All 2 year olds do things like that. Dont take it to heart. Be there to catch her when she falls, that our job. Havent you ever heard that you always hurt the one you love?
I am going to say it is a phase. My two year old when she goes to her grandmothers house now says "no" to my mother. She used to be unseperable from my mother and now she won't be touched by her until she stays there for a little bit. I believe she has been acting like that because she has a new sister. If I am reading your post together is the 3 month old the sibling of the 2 year old?? My daughter hits and acts like that to her grandmother and we direct her attention somewhere else and tell her what she is doing is not nice. It will pass...good luck
it is a phase....
She is viewing you as her buddy or friend, not as her mommy's sister. She is testing...and it will stop when she realizes you have more authority and higher standing. It just takes toddlers a long time and if you try to set her straight, it will cause resentment. Give her time and let her come to you. If she is to the point of rude, I would hope her mother would react appropriately to let her child know she is behaving rudely.
My nephew was once very nasty. And I hate to say it, but his father let it happen so i began to view him as a mean nasty little boy. When I came to visit, it was to visit the adults....he ignored me. And well being ignored was better than being hit or pinched. Well one day it changed, he was suddenly in line for a big hug and must've learned how to respect a guest if he wanted their attention.
Good luck, just give her time.
