If Its a Matter of Emergancy or Safty Can You Be Bumped up in a List for Housing

Updated on August 30, 2011
D.L. asks from Fremont, NE
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I am asking, because I am on the list for public housing, number 8 right now as I Am told from two weeks ago when I was 10, and I go the help I needed. Only thing is when my other half finds out about this, hes isn't going to be happy, not one bit. I don't know how hes going to react, and afraid of what wil happen. I don't want to go to the RADA ( I think is the correct abbrivation) I rather get into the housing he knows I applied for that, way if I get in before he finds out, then I will be out of the house first. Instead of waiting for him to jump then go to the other place. Can I call the housing athority place and tell them of my situation and as if there is anyway they can bump me up, or would I sound like a horrible, begging person by asking? I don't want them to kick me off the list or anything, but I really need this housing soon. Any suggestions. And don't tell me to just move out to my moms or whatever, I be taking my son out of school and everything to go two hours away. And I really don't want to do that if I don't have to. And no I don't have any friends in my town that can help or let me stay with them.

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Here is the issue. I am married, may have read about it, anyways. He hasn't wanted me to get a lawyer, he wants to make it easy supposedly, and all that jazz, going to his lawyer to get a parenting plan and all that so we don't have to go through all the parenting classes and what not. Well when he filed for divorce he put on the papers that he praticaly got everything, that he was the fit one to get custody, and I was to get visitation. I was explained this was just the way it had to be on those papers and a parenting plan had to be established. Well I finid out later that he could have put both our names on who was fit to be the parent, basiacly filling for joint that way. Was told no way he wouldn't have known if he talked to his lawyer about these papers. It was only to protect him. Anyways. I finnaly get the help I need, and he wants to file for temp custody, and full custoday to me. I worry about this because the hubby will go off the handle if he finds out about this.. no not if, I guess but when he does. I don't want to keep him from his son, I am easy on working on when we he sees him and what not, I don't want to take him for all hes got, I don't even care about alimony and crap. II know people are like you will need the money, and their right, but he doesn't have that much to give and I don't want to mess him up in living, specially know with everything going up in price. I just want to garentee I don't get screwed over and lose all rights to our child. I am scared though that once he finds out he will go nuts. I don't know if he would hurt me or not, but I fear his anger could get the best of him. I was told I could have him removed from the house temporarly, but problem is its his parents house, he does not own it. I am not sure I can do this because of that. Thats another question, I haven't been able to ask yet.

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C.O.

answers from Washington DC on

If it is a matter of SAFETY - then ASK...the worst that they can do is say no. You need to tell them the truth...no exaggerations...if you fear for your safety - then you should have a restraining order placed against him. If not - then you really aren't that afraid...sorry - but if I feared for my life - I would have it noted in the police department....or sheriffs department..

If you are afraid for your safety or think that your "other half" will beat you - then you need to take the kids and go to a W.'s shelter until you are #1 on the list...

If your "other half" is going to be mad because you've not moved up the list faster - that's another problem. You haven't explained how this is a matter of safety...you haven't explained WHY he would upset and not handle it well...so it's hard to answer your question about what I would do...

IF it is a matter of safety - you may have to move in with your mom - no, it's not what you want to do - however, if it means that you AND YOUR CHILD will be safe - then - yeah - you'll have to do it.

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T.K.

answers from Dallas on

I think everyone on the list really needs it. But if you, for instance, had a restraining order filed against him, that might get you priority status. I would just call and ask what constitutes an emergency and how do you qualify for it. They won't kick you off the list. They will just tell you your options.

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A.W.

answers from Chicago on

I'm not sure in your state but here you cannot be bumped up the list. You have to wait your turn as everyone on the list is in dire straits or they wouldn't be on the housing list. I didn't quite understand what you're saying- you are still on the waiting list and your boyfriend is going to be angry? Is that what you were saying? You can call housing and let them know the situation- they may have some suggestions for you. If you are fearful of his reaction and feel you will be in danger call your local domestic violence shelter and ask if they have any resources for you.
Good luck to you.

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R.R.

answers from Los Angeles on

In CA (and this is more than likely true in all states as Section 8 Housing is a federal program and all states have to follow the same rules) the only way people are moved to the top of the list is 1) they are a veteran or 2) have a disability. Call and let them know your situation, in the event there is an opening they can call you immediately, and do whatever you have to do to stay safe, who cares if it's inconvenient? Safety of life is more important than inconvenience anytime.

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K..

answers from Phoenix on

So, you're scared enough to want to get moved to #1 on the list, but you're not scared enough to find interim housing, in the event that your DH goes crazy and ift you don't get the housing soon enough? I'm confused...

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D.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Call a womens shelter for help. They will help you.

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G.B.

answers from Oklahoma City on

Get your onw attrorney. Don't let him railroad you. You need to file the divorce papers and be done with it. Just let him rant and go on. He needs to be gone.

As for the housing question. If they bump you up it is unfair to the other people who have been waiting too. They might be in the same situation or even worse, perhaps living at a woman's shelter or some other kind of temporary housing. Please call them though and ask. They may have several units coming open the first.

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