Idk How to Deal with My 5Yr Old Sexual Problems and They Are Getting Worse

T., by freaking out on your son and punishing him you sent him a message that what he did was wrong. However, did you then sit him down after a while and explain to him WHY it was wrong and that he shouldn't do it again? A lot of times we send the wrong messages to our kids by yelling and punishment but not explaining why it was wrong. Also talk to him about why he was trying to get your 2 year old to do that. Who showed that to him? Did he ever do that to anyone before? You will be surprised what a 5 year old can understand if you talk in normal tones and try to get him to open up.

As far as the help you need, do you have a trusted family memeber who can help you or a trusted friend? I would suggest if you have a church that you go to for you to talk to the pastor. Or if you don't belong to a church, join one and ask them for help. You can't go to the police without some sort of proof about the person you think is doing this to your son. That no school will take your son is ludicrius!!! By law your local district school cannot refuse to have him in school because of tantrums. That is the most ridiculous thing I ever heard of! Every school has councilers that will help with the children. Does your school have a special education class? Maybe he needs more help. Maybe you need to spend more time with him. Who knows. Try your local church first, then if that doesn't work, go to the state. Evidentally the father isn't around and you going to school and working your children are suffering. I commend you for going to school but I think right now your children need you more.

OK. .OK. . First, Slow Down. The first thing you need to know is that a certain amount of "exploring" is natural for children this age. They know they have one and they want to see what other's look like. At the same time, if your child was requesting acts like penetration or oral copulation then this is surely not normal child exploration. Sit your child down and talk to him about why he was doing what he was doing in a very CALM way. Explain that he is not in trouble but why it is not appropriate. Find out if anyone has done this to him. Ask in a very general off handed tone and not an accusing scary voice as this will likely make the child not feel comfortable to tell you, especially if he has been abused and then threatened by the abuser. If your child reveals that he has been abused, contact children's services immedietely. They deal with situations like this on a regular basis and know what to do. I worked for Children's services for several years and know that the parent is usually too emotional( for obvious reasons) about the situation to deal with it effectively.

But remember, this could just be a part of normal childhood exploration. Ask your pedtrician. Good Luck!

I think the only way you will really know is to take him to a counselor that can evaluate him properly. It may be nothing, but if it were me, I would rather err on the side of caution. It looks to me like you have your hands full. If you are in school, you probably have a counseling program on campus that can help you at little or no cost. Contact the counseling department and ask them if they can point you in the right direction. You may even want to see someone yourself. I know that when I was a single mom in college, sometimes I just needed someone to talk to that could give me some unbiased advice. Let me know how it goes and I will say a prayer for you.

i as well have been havein this prob with my 5yr old son he started doin this at age 4 and it dont seem to be getting any better.. i have took him to talk with some one and even had dcs to check on things at his dads and they said every thing seem to be fine and say nothing has happend to him while been with his dad but deep down i think there has and i just dont know what to do next feel free to e-mail me at ____@____.com and we'll talk

Please contact your nearest Health Department/Child Services. There are a number of non profit agencies available.

Also the Police Department will help direct you in the right direction as well.

Please do not wait another day!!!

P.

How awful!! This has got to be terrifying for you! I'm not sure what to suggest, maybe therapy? Or read some books on the subject so you can be better informed about how to handle your children?
I know there are support groups for you and your family. There has to be something on the internet on how to best handle your situation. Good luck and let me know if there is anything I can do.

From:K. I have had 2 similiar exsperiences. My son is 26 now. Very macho when he was about 3 or 4 I found him and his little boy cousin showing each other there pee pees. I know that it was innocent and kids do that. But in another case my grandaughter who is 4 goes to her fathers parents house. I had been noticing that her underwear had been really dirty like she was not getting help wiping. I had noticed she had been keeping her hands in her underwear alot while watching tv. I would tell her to stop. I dont know how much of that is normal. So one night I was giving her a bath and our last thing to do is I have her stand and spread her legs and taught her how to wash herself. She told me she couldnt because it hurt. I asked why and she said one of her female cousins had touched her there. I didnt want to jump to any conclusions so I said where was u when this happened? She said we were in the bed. She told me a few other things. I asked her did she tell her other granny she said yes and told the other 9 yr old cousin not to do it anymore. The grandmother denied her telling her that but 4 yr olds dont make that stuff up. So we no longer lrt her go if the other one is there and if she is she sleeps with her granny. There was suppose to be a talk to all the kids about this I dont know for sure if it ever happened but I keep my eyes wide open when she comes back. I think she is young enough she probably want remember it. If your son is still showing some sort of signs you might let his peditrician talk to him. Not long after this happened my grandaughter ended up with a really bad bladder infection and I had the dr. talk to her about keeping her hands off herself and others. She was getting in trouble at pre-k alot before we found this out now she seems to be doing better. Good Luck