J.W.
Hi Cally,
It is always nice to get out and do something as a couple but I find that the day to day things are much more important in getting that intimacy back in your marriage. I think it's very important to "hang out" with each other every night instead of going your own way. For a period of time my husband and I fell into a routine of putting the kids to bed then doing our own thing. He would go on the computer and I would watch TV or read. During that time we grew pretty distant and lack of intimacy was becoming a problem. We decided that instead of going our seperate ways after the kids were in bed, we would use that time to spend with each other. We have a glass of wine and sit outside on the front porch swing(if it's nice) or sit in the hot tub (even when it's snowing). We have a little game room set up in our basement and sometimes we will go down there and play pool or darts. If our favorite TV show is on we will sit on the couch and watch it but we will sit next to each other and he'll rub my feet or I'll sit on the floor in front of him and he'll rub my shoulders. What a huge differance that made in our marriage. It's what we used to do before we had kids but we lost it somehow once they were born.