I Want to Have Another Baby!! My Fiance's Not Ready!!

Wow L.,
You have a lot on your mind. There are a couple of things to consider allong with what you are wanting. First,you are so young and have lots of time to have children...siblings can and most likley will be close no mater the age gap.
Second, secretly going off of your birth control isnt a healthy way to grow your family...your feance may have resorvations for more resons than one, NONE of wich have anything to do with not wanting to have babies with you. Communication is key here...you need to do some digging for more information. Once you understand him you may have a different out look on the hole thing.
Hope all gose well for you...take care.
A. B

First of all....do not go off birth control without your fiance knowing. That would be starting your marriage off with a big lie.

Secondly, you said that you want a little girl who looks like you. There are several things wrong with that kind of attitude. First, you are not guaranteed to have a girl even if you do get pregnant and secondly, there are no guarantees that she (or he) will look like you.

I understand your thoughts about having siblings who are far apart in age, but that is still not a reason to have another baby right now. You should wait until you are married and financially able to afford the baby.

Hi - you really cannot push someone into wanting another baby. You are young and have a whole life ahead of you. I would definitely suggest that you wait until you are married before embarking on more children. It is pretty risky!! Definitely do not lie and go off birth control!!! That is sneaky and will cause much uproar!!! Take a deep breath and really think about this!!

If you truly believe God has His hand on everything...then perhaps your fiance is being wise... Don't you think God would want you to be married before you bring another child into this world? I don't mean to be harsh...but you are putting the cart before the horse so to speak.

I too had a child when I was 17 and married the father...had another at 19 (married) and another at 23... then a year later I went bonkers because I didn't have a chance to be a child myself. It had devastating results on my family which will last forever...

I am 42 now and have 25, 23, and 19 year old sons from my first marriage and just had twin boys 5 months ago... Give yourself time. Get married and enjoy your son and your new husband... When the time is right and if you leave it in God's hands it will all work out.