I'm sure it's easy to feel confused and get wrapped up in someone "new" even though you've known this person for a long time. I'd ask that you be honest with yourself - are you just enjoying the new found attention (as don't we all when we first start dating someone, etc.). If you love your husband and he loves you, then maybe you should sit down and talk about your relationship with each other, that you feel neglected because he is never there. And, just because he travels alot isn't an excuse to see other people - you made the vow to marry him for better or for worse. So, at least be honest with him about the struggles you're having within your marriage - and if you want to work it out, don't mention how you feel about the other guy or you'll probably have a much bigger issue on your hands. It really just sounds like you need to refocus on your marriage. I'm a firm believer it is truly hard to be friends with the opposite sex when you are married. Sure, you can hang out in big groups and enjoy other men's company but if you start hanging out with them one on one, etc. it's only going to lead to trouble or confusion. Decide what you want to do - and either really work on your marriage with your husband. Or, tell your husband you think you are falling for someone else and it's time to go your sep. ways. You might be surprised at what having a heart to heart with your husband will do. I'm not trying to tell you what to do at all but it saddens me that so many of us are so quick to give up on our marriages. My mom once told me, when you meet someone new - it's like eating at a fancy new restaurant - everything tastes so good and is SO different than the restaurant you are used to eating at, but at the end of the day, it's just food. As long as the other restaurant offers good service and takes care of you and you enjoy being there too, go back and stay there. It's a silly analogy but it makes sense. You said you do love your husband and that is critical! If you didn't anymore, then I'd say, well, it's time to let go. Anyhow, I could ramble on - I guess ultimately, I would say don't try and and juggle both relationships. First, at least make the effort to work on your marriage (which means telling your guy friend you can longer hang out because you are losing your focus on your marriage.) Also, if your guy friend, knowing that you are married and have two children, doesn't understand that and still wants to see you, etc. Well, then you might want to think about the type of person he is in that he's OK with stepping out with a married woman and essentially trying to ruin a marriage and a home with children. Really, think about it. And i wish you the best and my prayers go out to you because your heart must really hurt right now. Also, might be worthwhile to go to church with your husband as a means for reconnecting if you don't already.