I Really Need Some Advice.

I have the opposite problem, my first has thousands of picutes, the second has a bit less and the third has even less. The more kids you have the less time we find. I try to keep out equal amount of pics of each child and store the rest in their own boxes in the garage. I am only hoping that when they get passed the "he has more" phase they will just be happy with what pics they do have. And remember that you can always start taking more of each child today. Be blessed and remember it is the love and attention that they will remember most.

Hi A.! Another thing you can do is ask family and friends if they have any pictures of your older daughter that you can have copies of. I have had to do that with my son (17 months old). I took tons of pictures of my daughter, but being in school full time when I had my son, I did not take anywhere near as many pictures of him. I have had family and friends contribute to his album, and now I take tons of pictures of them both. Good Luck!

K.

Hi, I have 2 girls...3 & 11. I try to do something special with each of them once a week (even just go to the park). I take my camera, and take lots of pictures on our outings. I also keep a disposable camera in my car, in case there is something so cute, I just need to take a picture. This also makes each one feel special...especially my 11 year old. My 3 year old is so cute and very outgoing, and gets all the attention from everyone. Also, I put a special note in my 11 year olds lunch everyday, I write on her sandwiches with an edible food marker, and put special thought into that. I got these cute little notes for her lunch box on-line...they are called "365 Days of Encouragement for Kids." The website is www.tokensofaffection.com. Also, when you are taking pictures, it is a good idea to keep all your negatives or cd copies of your pictures in a fire proof safe or a safety deposit box. I rent one at my Credit Union for $6 a year. My friends house burnt down, and she no pictures now.

Its not too late to start taking photos, so snap away. *You can also save her art work, take photos of special things she has made and then have her help you make an album and title each one. That can be her special book.
*Did you keep a baby calendar of her when she was small, such as noting 1st tooth, 1st haircut things like that, if so add that to a nice scrapbook album with the pictures you do have. **Frame her report cards...
I am sure she feels quite special in many ways....I know I took a lot more photos of my son and when I look back at the baby albums you can see that, however I have filled my daughters with poems, memories etc to fill the book and she has never even noticed the difference in how many photos.

Have fun creating the memories!
K.

one thing you can do is find out if any of your family has pics of your daughter and then take those pics to some where like Walmart where you can copy them so that they are just like the originals! the other thing is that you can still take pictures now! why not take your camera and a few rolls of film (if you have a digital camera, that's even better! it's a lot cheaper now to print out digital prints then to buy film and get it developed), find a babysitter and do a mommy daughter day out. You can take her to the park, and around town and get lots of pictures of her now. And since it's pics of her special day, it's not like she will feel like those pics are any less speciaI. One more thought... most parents it's the opposite. They have lots of pics of the first baby because they were their only one. When the second baby comes, they tend to take equal pics of both kids, and end up with less of the younger. My mother did this. It's just something that happens, and I never felt like she favored my sister in any way! So, don't worry too much! Hope this helps!

iwas a singlemom with no money with my first so i donthave s tudio pictures. the ones i do have are old kdack camera pictures and they were faded. so i took them to a photo shop and they redid them for me fixed the color ect. i started collecting newspaper articles etc when my oldest was in high school. both my sons are very athletic. i tried to find as much stuff possible. i got old reprot card, wrote down memories of field trips, holidays, halloween etc and i mad a scrapbook for him . doing the same for my youngest but i dont have to chase down anything anymore. i even got a picture of his birth nurse she is now retired but she remembered as he came rocketing out and how she helped me name him. my oldest is going tohave his first child onfriday and im sure that though there arent many pictures other than school pictures, he will have something to share with hisnew family

Hi A.,

I read your letter and I understand what you are talking about. I have 5 kids ranging in ages from 6 months to 12 years. I just got through taking parenting classes and I learned something very important about problems like that. You need to try something called "mommy time". What that is is that you have to sit down, write down your complete daily schedule and figure out where your free time is. when you find free time, you split it amoung the two. You can also try extra credit mommy points. That is where you and your oldest take an extra 30 minutes a day and just talk. It really works.......I promise. Hope this helps. Good Luck

It's never too late to take more pictures. :-) You can do that and display some on the refrig of both girls. WalMart as these magnetic photo holders. I have some on my frig of my son.
You could also have her draw a picture for you and display it on the frig.
You can buy her a disposable camera and let her take her own pictures and you both can make a scrap book of her pictures. :-) That will be a fun project for the both of you and it will count as quality time with just her and you. :-)

As a single mother of 5 children, I know that it can be difficult to divide your time evenly among them (I also work part-time and go to college full-time). I am able to set aside certain amount of time each day for them, if its only for 15 mins, to ask questions or to see how their day went. It seems to be working so far. To let them you know you care enough to talk to them individually, has its rewards.