You need to drop 1 nursing session at a time. As long as she is solidly on table food now, she should be down to like 4 nursing sessions a day -- upon waking, after morning nap, before or after afternoon nap, before bed. Do you give her any breastmilk in a cup or bottle? It is OK to give her a glass of water at snack or dinner or watered down juice if you do not -- but just a little (no more than 4Oz a day of juice). Again, this is all based on your child being well established on food by now (like 3 meals a day and a snack). If she is not, you need to work on that in order to wean properly. The first year is a gradual move from all liquids to a balance of solid food and liquids. The ideal is to be on table food and about 16-24 oz of whole milk at 1 year old if you do not intend to breastfeed past 12 months.
To make it so that you do not get a breast infection, you should only drop one nursing session at a time -- gradually. Like dropping 1 the first week, 2 the second. Most women take away the "right before bed" one last as infants are usually attached to it. You need to start a new "routine" so she gets used to that. There will be a battle if your baby is attached to the breast so do it gradually (for you and her) and try to keep from getting too frustrated. Your body will react quickly to adjust to the dropped nursing sessions...so if you don't intend to fully wean for the next month, do not drop too many nursing sessions too quickly unless you have breastmilk in your freezer and she is taking that from a bottle or cup too.
About the night time feedings. As long as your baby is of good weight and growing well, most doctors (and the books too) say it is alright to night wean COMPLETELY at 9 months (no nursing sessions at all during sleeping hours). If you are OK with crying-it-out, I suggest dropping 1 nursing session at a time if your kiddo is pretty regular about times she wakes up to nurse. Cold turkey might be a bit much if she gets up say 3 times at night. You have to be consistent though so she learns what to expect. Do not give in and go to her 1 night and then expect her to settle on her own the next. Some people don't agree with cry-it-out and might have different opinions. I followed Weissbluth's book - Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. Both my kiddos sleep 11-12 hours per night without waking (they are 2.5 yrs old and 15.5 mos old).
Good luck! If you need anymore help, send me a message -- I just weaned my little one when he turned 1 a few months ago, so I know what you are going through.
A. F.
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