K.B.
I have a 4 year old also, and it takes so much time to break them back in to going to sleep in their own beds and staying there after sickness and such. I've been there, nothing that seems as severe as yours but similar. Anyways, I occassionally have to go on "monster hunts" and I crawl around the room looking for monsters and make it a HUGE game so that by the end he is laughing and things its funny instead of scary. Its really funny when he spends the WHOLE next day hunting for monsters and scarying them away! Does she have a night light or something in there? Maybe she is afraid of the dark through all of this somehow. We use a lap with a 15 watt light bulb in it for my son. It's a lot of light but he sleeps through it, won't go to sleep without it, and we taught him to make sure it gets turned off in the morning. Maybe use play to find out what it is she is afraid of. Ask her to put her baby doll to bed like you put her to bed, and listen to what she says and ask her how the baby doll feels and why. It could help you find out WHAT exactly she is afraid of instead of trying to guess and use tons of stuff. Or if she is a good drawer, ask her to draw a picture of what she is afraid of in her room, then have her explain the picture. I hope something here helps! Best wishes!