I Need Some Advice on a Naughty 5 Year Old

Hi L.

I'm going through that same thing. My daughter has behavior issues at school. She doesn't do it at home. Therefore what I did was let her buy or do anything that she likes. Once I figured that out, I start to take away her right to her favorite things. I just started last week and she thinks twice before throwing a fit. She still has her days but I haven't had to go to her school to address the issue. Just set some bounderies and he will adjust. It will take time. Hang in there.

Have you tried talking to him about why its not something he should do and then find something else to occupy his mind for a bit i had to remove any and everything when my daughter was a young one and it made it eazier yet she didnt really learn the bondaries and now she 18 and thinks shes my mom but both my daughter do that GOOD luck i have always heard a little late for me but consistentecy is the key component to an effective disipline..you could also try to reward the smallest of good behavior or just when you think he may do something wrong catch him and try to play a game with him. just thought to try..

I also agree obviously do not listen to Paige. My son also has moods where he will not listen and well goes crazy. I have become good at knowing the warning signs of one of his moods. I just let him know that his behavior is absolutely not acceptable. I will put him in time out or take him out of a situation. I think punishments should be the natural consiquences of their actions. Such as if you are not being nice to someone you have to go to time out and not be around others or if you hit you sister with a toy you will lose the toy for the rest of the day (and go to time out). Punishments that have nothing to do with what they did will not make sense to them. Children also need to test you, some more then others. Try to be consistant they will test you less if they always get the same response. I know that my son is just rebellious and does not like be told what to do (I wonder where he gets that?:)) We go through periods where he misbehaves a lot and we struggle and just consistantly do what we do and then he will be very good for weeks and then he will try to test us again. I just try to be patient, which is very hard, and be consistant and loving. I know someday when he has more choices and freedom to make his own decisions he will feel less bossed and lash out less often. There are a lot reason that your son may be acting out. You should try to figure out why he acts the way he does and fight fire with WATER(as in trying to modify the behavior) not fire(like lashing out back at him).

I have one of those creatures myself, and I hope you get better advice than what I'm gonna say, heh.
My son loooooooves his Shake'n'Go cars. I use those when he is being particularly heinous. If he doesn't listen to me, and I have to count 3, then I take a car and put it on the top shelf in my closet, and he doesn't get it back until the following Sunday. Of course, at one time I had all but 1 car up there, so it doesn't work that great, I guess, but it's something.
Good luck, and I'll check back to see if anybody esle gives you better advice!

J.

Since you say either he will not stop or a whole minute will go by while he continues to do what you told him not to do, it seems to me that he is not having any consequences for his actions. If you tell him to stop or...(time out, toys taken away, etc.) and he does not stop, you have to follow through every time. If you tell hime to stop or he'll get in trouble, and then he doesn't stop and all you do is keep making empty threats, he has no reason to take you seriously and no reason to listen. I am not telling you any particular punishment, because what works with every child is going to be different. My son could not care less about sitting in time out, but if we send him down to his room for a while he hates it. (Even though that's where all his toys are). The main thing is not what punishment you use, but that you find what works with your child and then follow through every time. If you make a threat and don't follow through, they will never take you seriously. Good luck!

as long as he's not doing something harmful to himself or anyone else... have you tried to just ignore him? Maybe he;s acting out b.c he knows it gets your attention. Maybe he'll figure out he gets more attention from you when he doesn't do annoying things?