How can I get my 15 month old boy to sleep by em self??.He wants to sleep with me but i dont want him sleeping with me anymore...I have been making him sleep in his packnplay for the past few days..and he wakes up at like 5am screaming hims brains out for me to get him out and have him lay with me...I need help??
I reccomend the book "The Sleepeasy Solution". This book can help you outline a plan to transition your son to his own bed. Hope this helps - i know how it is!
Hi J.!
I'm not an advocate of the cry it out method that some of the moms are suggesting, I think it's cruel and can cause attachment problems. If you're looking for an alternative I would try this website www.askdrsears.com I refer to it a lot when I have problems or questions. They do have info on there about getting your baby to sleep on their own. Good luck!
It shouldn't take longer than one week for him to get used to sleeping by himself-but co sleeping is a hard habit to break so it may take a little longer. The key is DON'T GIVE IN!!!! When you do, he'll try many more times to scream until you give in again. Be firm and hang in there! Also, make sure the room is comfy, dark and warm enough etc. so it doesn't wake him, and feed him lots during the day so he doesn't get mildly hungry during the night-just do whatever you can to ensure a long peaceful night, and don't give in! You can do it! Just remember you're giving the gift of letting him feel secure to sleep alone. He'll get there!
Put him in his crib, let him cry. It will all be over with in a few nights. In the meantime, you are not teaching him anything but total dependency. He needs to sleep on his own in his own crib. He is crying because he is not getting what he is used to- i.e. lying with you. Breaking the cycle is the only way- of course, he'll be upset, but he needs to sleep on his own for all of your sakes.
Put him in his CRIB at night and put on some soft music, a nightlite and brace yourself. It will take 3-4 nights. When he cries go in and briefly soothe him--do NOT pick him up or take him out of his crib. Repeat every 10-15 minutes until he is asleep. Repeat the next few nights.
He is doing what he has trained you to do! He knows that when he cries, you will come & get him & let him sleep with you. It's not his fault! :)
Good luck. Stay hydrated! :)
Hi J.. I am going through this with my son who is now 5. We had a really hard time getting him out of our bed. Now we just lay in his bed with him until he falls asleep. Things my pediatrician suggested were laying with him in his bed for a week until he falls asleep and then slowly move farther away from the bed each week until you are ultimately out of his room. Though this did not 100% work for us, it may be successful for you. I have learned from that experience to make my second one cry it out in her crib as an infant. She is a great sleeper, (now 3 YO) and in her toddler bed. It is amazing that at night she will do her bedtime routine and go to sleep on her own while my husband still has to lay in bed with my son. My son now admits to being scared of the dark, so we are just dealing with it. Your son is too litle to express what is wrong. I wish you luck!
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Maybe he's not ready yet. Give him another month of sleeping with you and gently try again-- or do what I do- keep them in bed with you as long as they want- usually between ages 6 and 10 and savor every moment because you are getting all those precious moments with him, and inside you know you are giving him the time he needs to grow into a truly secure person.
Hi J.,
I really agree with Ginny. At 15 months your son is still a baby. Toddlers have lots of needs - they are starting to find their independence and yet they still need to feel that you are their security.
We wouldn't let our friend or our mom or even a person on the street cry it out in the dark without consoling them, touching them and giving them comfort, why do this to a child who has only been on this planet less then two years? It sounds like he just needs to feel safe and when he wakes up without next to him it probably scares him to think you aren't there anymore.
There is a great book called "Let the Baby Drive" by Lu Hanassian. she talks a lot about her own experience as a mother to a child who wouldn't sleep and how she learned to trust her mother's intuition. She has lots of great advice.
Good luck,
H.
I highly recommend the book - Good Night, Sleep Tight - can't remember the author's name right now. It deals with all kinds of sleep issues and teaches you how to train your child to fall asleep on their own, so that when they wake up during the night they can go back to sleep. It will take time - just when you think it isn't working, he'll surprise you. Good luck with it!
