I Need Help with Dicipline with My Son Who Has Hydrochephelus!!!!

Hi S.:
You didn't mention your sons age,but i'm guessing hes a toddler.You need to get away from the word NO. It's repetitious,and eventually goes through one ear and out the other.Save the NO's and STOPs for urgent things,so your toddler recognizes it as something dire.(Like running towards the street)This may sound silly but if you were training A puppy,and tried using the SAME WORD for sitting,stopping,rolling over, fetching,that pup wouldn't know which way was up. Instead redirect your son.It goes from sounding negative too "WOW mom" "You've got some good ideas" "Lets do this" or "This would be fun" The reason he fights to get past your gate,is not defiance,but curiosity,and the need to be near you. Unless there is A real danger in his being in the kitchen with you,I'd take down the gate,and either give him A cupboard with things he can play with,like some other mothers suggested or a little table he could sit at and feel as though hes helping you in some way. I would bet my pay check,that shortly after you remove the gate, he won't even be interested in going in the kitchen any more. lol. I wish you and your little guy the best. J. M

How old is your son???
If he is under 3 years old... each State seems to have a Regional Center or Zero-To-Three Program... that assists, for "free", developmental issues with children.

Perhaps, ask your Pediatrician.
Through this program, this is how my son received Speech Therapy. They have assistance and full-range developmental assessments & Therapists for a range of things... not just delays in Speech...it is for any developmental problem or concern.
It is a great program!
AND, it gives the Parents "tools" and knowledge as to how to 'help' your child best per their specific needs.

Or, perhaps look online for support groups in your area?

All the best,
Susan

I agree with SH's response about the Early Start program and behavioral support.

Since I don't know his age.....re-direction, used consistently is a fabulous tool. If the issue with keeping the children out of the kitchen is a safety issue, then you should not give in. Provide the boys with another activity prior to you entering the gated kitchen. If it is a convenience issue to keep the kitchen gated, then perhaps you can designate one cabinet for them to get into - such as one filled with Tupperwaren type dishes. I did this with both of my children, and it kept them distracted, yet close to me during meal prep time.

Best wishes.

ignore him when he shakes the gate and he will stop, but sounds like the gate doesn't work. Find something else to keep him out or just deal with him in the kitchen. with my 1.5 year old, every time he did something i didn't like that i couldn't simply ignore i removed hm from the situation. eventually he stopped doing it (running into the street).