Hello
On christmas eve my husband walked out on me and my 3 year old son. I had found that he has been cheating on me. Not with just one girl but many and it has been going on now for a couple of years.
I found a copy of there conversation on his computer. It goes into detail.
I need a pit bull of a lawyer. My husband is very snicky and excellant at lying.
He travels for a living so when he goes to china, canada, florida, texas etc im found out he has women all over.
Now I understand why he has been so tired when he comes home and has NO TIME for me and my son
We have been married for 11 years and together for 16
He says in his eyes since we are separated we are really divorced!! He is going to canada this week (over new years) where one of his flings are. He said if he feels like it he will jump in the sack, since in his eyes we are no longer married. Since christmas eve he took his ring off.
My comment back was you have been acting like we are not married now for a couple years
I just don't what to do, so hoping all of on this website can help me.
thank you alot!!
I have a great attorney but she only does dupage county stuff. If you are willing to file in dupage county let me know.
E.,
I cannot imagine what you must be going through right now. I will share with you what I know. My husband is an attorney who handles many divorces. Illinois is a "no fault" state, so in simple language just because he cheated (scum of the earth...imo) it isn't grounds for a divorce. You do need to speak to an attorney to find out how to file and under what terms. If you would like a recommendation for someone in your county let me know and I'll ask my husband. My husband works out of McHenry and Kane Counties, but knows many attorneys in others. Best of luck to you.
Side note: Continue to be the best mommy you can be. Hold your head up high. You did NOTHING wrong! Stand your ground and don't give up anything YOU worked hard for.
I don't have any lawyer advice for you but I believe I know what you may be entitled to.
My situation is very similar to yours...except I found videos of him with his whores. He's living with one now. Anyways, you are still legally married. If you don't have separate bank accounts, you need to open one in your name only and start moving money. I wouldn't take it all but it is kind of a finders keepers game. If it is in your possession, it is yours. Change the locks on the doors and start getting credit card statements. You should be able to get all the money back from his affairs and I believe you are entitled to "maintenance" since you have been married so long. Be careful what attorney you get....one that lies isn't ethical and may get you into more trouble than you want. Your ex may change his mind about custody when he sees how much he will be paying in child support (depends on the county) and may fight you for custody, which having a sneaky lawyer will cause problems. You want to look like the perfect mom...and don't do anything without thinking of the consequences first.
Give yourself a day to cry, vent, etc.
Then take action! Let him keep thinking you are in the dark and helpless without him. Do what Jennifer said..outsmart him!! move money, any valuables (give to a friend), credit cards, bills. etc...TAKE ACTION now!
One day you will understand why this had to happen. Trust me.
But for now, take action and when you have done that put a couple layers around yourself of supportive friends, family, support groups, community groups and websites!! We are all hear for you!!! Please check back with us and let us know how you are doing!! You are gonna pull out of this stronger than you ever thought you could be!!!!!
Hi E. , Im really sorry you are going through this . I dont have an attorney but just wanted you to know you have alot of friends from here that would be here for you to vent or scream . Remember that . More importantly protect yourself and your precious little boy from something that can get super nasty and fast . If you know where your husband keeps his records try to make copies of his finanical statements and CD's , stocks and even is 401K . Protect your son's future as well as your own . Send me a e-mail if you wan to vent .
Hang in there
K.
E. - I can recommend an attorney in Tinley Park. John G. Cossidente, Jr. - ###-###-####. I highly recommend him and even have seen him make grown men cry in court.
E., I just wanted to say how very sorry I am that you are going through this. I cannot believe that a MAN would do that to his wife and son on Christmas Eve. How selfish.
I hope you find a wonderful attorney! Good luck with all of this. I wish you a bright and happy future with your little boy!
Sincerely,
L.
Hugs, hugs and lots of (((hugs))) is all I can offer to you. I hope you have trusted friends and family you can turn to during this time.
Jennifer is right. Good luck. I am so sorry for you. I have been through divorce. It is awful and you have been very betrayed. I hope one of the moms has a good lawyer for you. Start taking care of you financially. And stay the good mom you are.Your baby needs you. I am adding more advice now. I woke up thinking about this in the middle of the night. I think you must do what Jennifer said, and start putting money aside as discretely as possible. Perhaps have a friend hold it, or put it in another bank account. If the man is capable of this he is very capable of making your lives miserable. And do not move out of your house. Have him move. Think about these things. You do not really know him then. Prayers are out for you.
S.
The reason former Judge Shields is "retired" is because she was a documented corrupt judge. She can no longer harm anymore children.
Check out courthouse forum under: Retaliation for exposing judicial corruption: three moms on terrorist list
http://www.courthouseforum.com/forums/thread.php?id=1048974
Former Judge Shields was exposed for being corrupt (i.e., extortion under the color of law, fraud, fraud upon the court, and bribery)in a panic she placed three MOMMY's on a statewide terrorist list to cover up her illegal activities. Defamation lawsuit Lake Cnty case No. 07 L 646 on appeal at the 2nd District case no. 2-08-0574. She was one of the founding members of Nadler, Pritikin & Mirabelli.
Ugh, poor thing. I am so sorry to hear about this. First, I want you to know that no matter what you face you can get through it. Second, if you need help besides a lawyer you have found a safe place here and I will always be open to listen and give advice as I deam appropriate. Third, LAKE TOBAK AND YAVITZ. They are in the city. Fantastic team of lawyers! ESP. Steve Lake and Allen Tobak! This would be the team that was going to do Michael Jordans case and I did have them do mine. You can be sure you are in great hands with them. I have known them for many many many years, they are not the most expensive either. Hope that helps and I wish you the best with everything you are going through.
Blessings,
C.
contact former Divorce Judge Karen Shields. She is a good friend of mine and is now doing mediations/arbitrations for Divorce. You'll love her. ____@____.com
Let her know you were referred from mamasource!
so sorry you are going through this!
I don't know any attorneys but wanted to tell you how sorry I am to hear this occurred. I wish you the best!
