I Need Advice!!! - Brackenridge,PA

Hi, I don't have any expertise in employee law or anything, so I don't know what you are legally required to do, but if this new job is really a step up professionally, then go for it!

My personal opinion for experience over the years and I hate to say this but in the end employers ALWAYS look out for themselves. You need to do the same. I would go to the new job and don't tell them untill you are at least 3 months pregnant. It is very sad but only you will look out for you. Good Luck and Congratulations

Hi D.,

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Thanks,
D.

I would take the job once they see you are a good worker they might work something out with you to take some time off and come back when the baby is older or even find another position for you that you can work the hours you need after the baby is born. You will never know if you don't take a chance. The people you meet their could change your future. If you do take the job I don't think you should tell them you are pregnant until you have to.

Good Luck,
C.

I think you legally have to tell them that you are pregnant. I don't think they can legally resind their offer of employment because of you being pregnant - if they have already offered you a position - but you know how some companies can be! I don't know if the doctor would have to tell them, if you went to a "company" dr they might be legally bound to tell them, but if you went to your own physician maybe not. But I would be upfront with them about the pregnancy - which by the way congrats - and tell them that it would not interfere with you ability to the work that you are being hired for in any way. The only thing they might do is not give you a paid maternity leave, some companies will do that if you are pregnant when you start, but if you are honest with them then they will know upfront and they will see what type of person you are, which should be a positive thing for you!
Good luck!

Hi,
I agree completely w/ the other post. Keep your mouth shut for a couple of months on this one. I went through a similar situation with my first pregnancy, had just accepted a new job with more money, benefits, etc. & found out after I had accepted but before I started that I was pregnant. I told them after my first tri-mester was over, which is a common time to start telling people anyway. They were upset as it was since I replaced a woman who left to stay home with her kids, but that wasn't my problem, nor is it yours. We all know it's against the law to discriminate, but that doesn't stop people from doing it every single day. You need to protect you & your family & telling a brand new employer is not a great way of doing that. Good luck!

you dont want to start a new job with "dishonesty" expecially since you said this was a physically demanding job, you dont want to hurt yourself or your unborn baby!!

tell them that while you were getting the physcial that you were informed that you are pregnant. But reinsure them that you will still like to fill the position and will work to as late in the pregnancy as you possibly can.

If you are sure you want this job than GO FOR IT and DONT tell them you are pregnant. This same exact situation happend to me;I didnt tell them I was pregnant until 2 months into the job and I'm glad I did it that way and here's why:
I am still employed at the same job, 3 yrs later. Look at it this way, you probably WONT get hired if you tell them you are pregnant but they CANT fire you for being pregnant. If you are a great worker and they value you as an employee they will be more than understanding about you needing to take some time off for the baby and when you're ready to come back you will still have a place in the company. However, trying to get paid Maternity Leave may be an issue.lol

It is illegal for an employer to not hire you because of your pregnancy. Since it is more money, I say go for it because you'll need the extra cash for the baby to come. There's no reason things should change now. Good luck!

Take the job, don't tell them your pregnant yet, and everything will work out the way it is supposed to. Faith!

HI D.,
I THINK YOU SHOULD BE UPFRONT AND HONEST WITH THE NEW JOB. TELL THEM YOU ARE PREGNANT AND THROUGH YOUR JOB PERFORMANCE IF YOU GET THE JOB THEY WILL BE THANKFUL THEY HIRED YOU. I WORK AT WEST PENN HOSPITAL AND HEAR ALOT FROM OTHER EMPLOYEES THAT THEY WERE AFRAID TO TELL THEY TOO WERE PREGNANT BUT IF YOU ARE QUALIFIED FOR THE JOB THEY REALLY CANT HOLD THAT AGAINST YOU. JUST DISPLAY YOUR TRUE SELF AND IF ITS MEANT TO BE YOU WILL GET THE JOB. HANG IN THERE AND GOOD LUCK WITH WHAT EVER YOU DECIDE. CONGRATS ON YOUR NEW LITTLE LOVE!!!!!!!!! SINCERLY H.

I have gone through this one on the employer end. While they can not decide not to hire you based on pregnancy, it can create some animosity and trust issues if you start working and then announce your pregnancy, especially if others have to cover for you. I would be honest with them and ask for their honest opinion on your ability to continue on with them after your other baby is born. You should also ask yourself if you will be able to work with 2 little ones, and if you're just breaking even if it is even worth it. I know I loved my job, but with 2 little ones and a teen, working is just not possible at the moment.

Hi D.,

I was/am kind of in the same situation as you. I had interviewed for another job and was told that I pretty much have it (pending a background security check). That was in July. However, at the end of August I found out I was pregnant. I debated about when or whether to tell the new employer, and at first I wasn't. But, after much deliberation and praying I decided to inform my would be immediate supervisor (at the new job), after I heard the baby's hearbeat for the second time (because I wanted to make sure everything was okay); which was this past Friday (I'm 17 weeks now). I told her yesterday, and she didn't seem to mind at all. My due date isn't until the end of March, but I won't start until Dec. 5. It is overwhelming to find out your pregnant, before you start a new job...I'm still a little nervous. I hope this helps.

First, you are not legally bound to tell them. Second, no doctor can discuss it with your employer because of doctor/patient priviledge.

Is the new job physically demanding? If it were me and it was a job I could handle, I would take it and not tell them right away.

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D. Addesa

Well, first of CONGRATULATIONS on your second bundle of joy!! Second, if your husband has you covered for benefits and such then I would say go for the other job if that's what you want. Then you need to take into consideration that they may not hold your position once you go on maternity leave. If you enjoy your part time job, then stay there. Have you considered looking into home daycare settings? It’s much cheaper the public daycare, and most times the environment is more inclusive for a little one to feel comfortable and learn.

Hi D.,

When I started my job, I was pregnant, but didn't know it.
My husband and I had only been trying to get pregnant for 4 weeks when I got the "perfect" job. I was even thinking about
starting my birth control pills again because of the new position.

Anyway, after I found out that I was pregnant, I waited until I was past the first trimester. That's when you're most likely to miscarry...since I had never been pregnant before, I wasn't sure what my risks were...

I would suggest waiting until you're 3 months pregnant. Then tell them you found out after you already quit your other job and started your new one.

Hope this helps. Good Luck!

All the best,
T.

D., like you said the baby will not be born until next year. Who knows, maybe by that time you'll have better hours pay, and gain friendships. If they don't ask not to worry and if they do, my suggestion be honest (keep in mind you're the employee). It will reveal your character. Let them know when you start to show (could be 4 - 6 months)

Wish you the best.

Hi D.,
Keep in mind, you are NOT obligated to tell the new job you are pregnant yet. I made that mistake just after someone hired me and they turned around and told me i no longer had the offer because i was pregnant. I could have sued them, but at the time i didnt know that. It was indiscrimination. I would take the new job, tell them in a few months like when you start to show. This way you can #1 make sure you actually do like the job and that it is the right fit for both you and the company. They need to see what a great employee you are before you tell them to ensure you wont have a problem in the end.
O and by the way CONGRATS on the new baby!!!! And the new job!

L.

D. I am T. , Congrats on both the new bundle and a new job which is not physical which would be perfect for you beiing pregnant, in my past experience people interviewing for new jobs that are expecting usually arent offered the job however they have offered you the job and they will work with you. I would work the new job and bring more money in to help with the new baby, but yet be honest and reassure them that after the baby is born you will return to work if thats what you want to do. they have offered you the job so they cant renig on it. And next year is a while away and there are great child care programs in the Murrysville area. It basically what you want to do. But great news on two things at once happening to you . How often do good things come in double digits...lol

I think that as long as the new job isn't too stressful and won't affect the preganancy than go for it for now i wouldn't worry about telling them until it is neccessary unless the job calls for things you shouldn't do when your pregnant like heavy lifting. the hours problem i am sure you can work out when it gets closer to time to having the baby or when you are coming back from maternity leave. I am sure it will work out and Congratulations.

You have to think of yourself and your family first. If this job pays more and you need the extra cash... Take the job! They can't fire you if you are going to have a baby. I'm pretty sure you don't have to tell them if you are pregnant.

Good Luck,

J.

Hi D. -

You may want to consider a few things actually. I'm not sure what kind of company you are going to and what the functions of the job consist of but I, personally, would be inclined to tell my new boss only because if they offered you the position and fire you or rescind the offer once they find out you are pregnant that is a nice lawsuit UNLESS they can prove you will not be able to perform the essential functions of your position and that is something I'd rather know upfront (just me personally). Legally you do not have to tell them you are pregnant though.

I'm thinking the physical is to ensure that you are physically fit to perform the essential functions of the job but I could be wrong. If that is the case then does that mean you will need accomodations made as you get further along in your pregnancy? What you may also want to think about is, if you take this new job would you even be eligible for FMLA when the baby is born because you would be there less than a year? Does that mean they would require you to go back to work earlier than the 3 months? If so, how do you feel about that? If you stay at your current position are you entitled to these benefits, etc? If the hours aren't going to work in 9 months is leaving your current job worth it?

Again, I'm not sure what type of position you currently have or are applying for so none of this may matter but if it does, these are the things I would think about.

S.