I Miss My Boy!

What a great time to start your studying midwifery- take time to call the midwifes around here, go visit- Labor of love in Dunedin is so nice, and I love theri office- you could take a little trip and see what they have, check out schools and find what you need to do- are there any pre reqs? if you don't have these were locally could you get started.
By the time you son returns with all his great stories you will have stories of your own,
Good luck-k

Of course you miss him. But he is with his grandparents; adults, responsible people who love him and will take good care of him. Take time to pamper yourself, read, window shop, sunbathe, swim, and practice a hobby.

First n how old is your son? That will make a difference as to how much you should let him know how yoou feel.I do hope that he will be able to speak with you occassionally and write you a letter or two. Again all this depends on his age.The most important thing is when you talk to him make him feel good about his trip. Yes of course you can say you miss him but you know he will be having a wonderful time and its so great his grandparents are showing him such a fun time.Donot give him any GUILT about your missing him. That is a selfish reaction and not ever best for him.Tell him to be sure and keep a diary of what he does to share with you when he returns. Let him know you are keeping busy,reading sewing whatever.If your cell phone users tell him to call whenever but of course tell him he doesn't have to when he is so busy. Hope this helps. His age is what makes the most difference in your responses to him. Good Luck.Spend time with your dogs and keep busy. E W

I completely understand how you feel. Though I am not a single mom, my husbands familu usually takes my kids for about half of the summer. I am excited for them, but miss them teribly after only the first day. It doesn't help that my youngest gets ome sick ad we usually have two or three very tearful conversations while they are gone. Just keep reminding yoursel how much fun he is having, and what wonderful new things he is experiencing. This is definitely a lot harder on you than on him!

I know, it killed me inside with grief when my children were gone for only a little while or longer. Now it's even worse with my grandson whom I am raising. Just remember, he has to have this time away with people that it is safe for him to be with, it removes fears, and teaches him independence. That is a skill set he will definitely need building life skills.
It is good for you because you can rest and captilize on things that will make you better. It hurts like crazy I know, but he will be back and you know that he is okay. Call him and make sure that he knows you are still around and that will decrease any separation anxiety he may have. You are doing a wonderful thing for his growth by letting him vacation. He is also learning to build relationships.
You get an A.

Get busy with that study program, girl. Now! While you have some free time to yourself.
Send him a "care package" with favorite treats, cartoons, and a few stamped postcards addressed to you...and don't freak when he doesn't mail them!...
Most of all, send him love and wish him a fabulous vacation with the in-laws. If/when he calls, then encourage him to have the best time of his life...and that you and he will be so happy to re-unite! And make pictures, write a diary, make memories, dear...and meanwhile, the grandparents are thrilled to have their little boy with them for two weeks...
Blessings, S.

I am a single mom too, of a 6 yr old girl. I agree with one of the previous posters..... STAY BUSY. Work late, read books, hang out with your friends. That is what gets me through when she is with her Dad. I know it's hard....Good luck.

I hate to say this but it is lonely when they are gone after always having them there. It drove me crazy when I first had to let my girls so stay with their Grandparents. But my Mom taught me to take advantage of the free time. She said to do things that I normally wouldn't or couldn't do while the girls were home. So that is what I did. I took long bubble baths by candle light. I read lots of books. Cleaned areas in the house that needed cleaning. Went to Bingo. Worked more hours for extra money. Hung out with my neices and nephews. I am sure there are things you would like to do but haven't. Make a memory book. Learn a new craft. There is nothing that will stop you from missing him but if you keep busy the time will go by a lot faster.
I know where you are coming from and I worried the entire time they were gone at first until I learned to keep myself busy. Try making some new friends. Anything but don't sit there and do nothing. They say it gets easier but honestly, the people that say that have not been single Mom's....Not sure how old your son is but be careful what you say to him. You don't want him to feel guilty for going.

I too am a single mom & miss my daughter like crazy when she goes on vacation with her dad. Staying busy, busy, busy is the key. Do not I repeat, do not stay at home and do nothing. I work more & plan fun stuff with girlfriends that I wouldn't normally get to do when she is around. Go to places that you can't take children, exercise more, read a great novel, go see a chick flick, have dinner with friends & have adult conversation without being interrupted. You really can enjoy yourself if you put your mind to it. Remember he will have his own life one day so now is the time for you both to learn how to be independent. And how great for him to have this time with his grandparents & they get to have him all to themselves & spoil him & bond with him. I am sure you are a great mommy, but an even better one for letting him have his independence during this vacation with his grandparents. I bet he is having the time of his life!

Stay strong & God bless!

You are very luck and your little boy will have the greatest memories that money can't buy. Every summer I send my girls to my parents for a month (this year 2 1/2 months). Yes, it's a long time and yes I miss them terribly. But they love it. They have friends in the neighborhood to play with, play with my cousin's kids and lots to do. Plus hubby and I don't have to pay for day care/summer camps. My parents put our girls into camps (basketball, art, bible school, etc.). I have been enjoying my time while they are gone and I call them 4-5 times a day :) But again, it's the best memories ever. I give my parents a copy of the insurance card every summer just in case. I went up to visit for 5 days and they love it! Now I'm counting down till the 19th when they come home. Then it's back to school.

Of course you'll talk to him regularly on the phone, but if you & his grandparents have cellphones with photo/sharing capability, they can take random pictures each day & send them to you via cellphone. Other than that, KEEP BUSY! I need help painting....:)

A., I sure you did miss him.. i bet when he came home he was sooo happy to see you.. how was it when he left??..

I am in the exact same situation- my son left with his dad for 16 days ( we arent together) I miss him like crazy too- but I try to make myself enjoy the time off. Most parents don't get a break from their kids- so I consider myself lucky. I have made an effort to do more "me" stuff- going to the beach, reading books that have been sitting by my bed for months. Just do stuff you normally don't have the time to do! Last year I went crazy (he leaves every year for 2-3 weeks) and went out alot. This year- I am relaxed and enjoying quiet time. I've painted his room and redecorated this year- so I can suprise him when he comes home. I have gotten done so much around the house as well! My son has been gone 14 days already, and the time flew by. Enjoy it!!

My boys stay with my parents, who live 700 miles away too, so I know how your feel. After a few days, you'll not miss him as much. I did LOTS of cleaning! My house had never been so clean! I also used the time as an opportunity to clean out their rooms and get rid of some of their toys. They never noticed. Also I did lots of things I couldn't do with kids around. My husband and I had date nights and i went out with girlfriends! take advantage of the time away!