Dear DM,
My response would be different depending upon your situation. Are you working and so that is why your daughter is in daycare/preschool? If so, it is out of necessity so that you can feed your family? If not, reconsider what will bring you the most peace and happiness in the long run. If you are, then pray for ideas to know what to do. Early childhood is a time to sincerely consider each child's needs and how we can best meet them with love, patience, and the gifts God has given us. My oldest daughter, who is 16 and going to Homecoming tonight, was your daughter's age what feels like was a few years ago. She had such terrible separation anxiety that we finally stopped preschool and worked on things at home: reading books, going on field trips, cooking together. Kindergarten and first grade were no different. My husband dropped her off at school for me some days because she would be so emotionally attached (clinging, sobbing). It drove us nuts. But the time I got to spend with her when she was at home instead of preschool is something I would not have traded for a million dollars. Her anxiety didn't last. The memories of being together do. She is bright and a great student, perhaps because of some of the many hours we spent together reading, listening to beautiful music, dancing in the family room, going to visit lovely spots. It was not a walk in the park as I had a new baby each 2 years, but again, in hindsight, I would not have changed anything. Her separation anxiety opened the door to closeness that otherwise might not have been there.
Carefully evaluate what your daughter needs now, and see what you can do to accommodate her heart and spirit at this short season. Whatever your circumstances, your Heavenly Father knows how to help you work things out. If you do have to work, He'll help you know how to help her through this transition time. So ask Him what to do. It's not an easy job, being a mother, but it is the most influential and worthwhile job we do. I am guessing you are doing the best you can do!
Best wishes,
L.