I Have Been Through a Rough Year and About to Face Work Again

I have had some of the same struggles as you after I gave birth to twins. I hated going to work because of the odd hours and feeling unwanted because the company that I worked for didn't like the fact I had to take two family leaves due to a high risk pregnancy. I ended up going back to school and getting help through financial aid, grants, and scholarships. I have to tell you though that spending four years at a university is no picnic. If you want to go back to school to take a break from work and make a change in your life it's possible. You just have to be tenacious. Also, you might want to consider the effect upon the family income. However, if you are truly unhappy a change will do your spirit good.

Honestly it sounds like you mainly need a friend to vent to! I remember being in the same situation, it can get very lonely. You mentioned that you want to go back to school. Do it! When i found myself in that same depressing rut, jobs that aside from teh pay feel pointless, and even harmful. I decided to go to college. I won't lie it is hard to do with kids, but it is easier than facing that hopeless feeling day in and day out. Not too mention the wonders it does for your confidence! Simply to know that you are bettering your future as well as that of your daughter. Plus with financial aid loans and possible scholarships it will help tie over your financial needs. I know it isn't much but sometimes the extra few thousand every 3 months can put help with the finances a bit. But if you don't really feel you are up to going to school just yet definately consider mommy and me groups, most are free, and they offer the ability to socialize,(and have your child with you!)also sometimes it just helps to get out of the house. Anyways I hope this helped a little.

i'm so sorry to hear about your physical struggles as well as your emotional ones!! and with a baby who needs all your attention also! hang in there!!

if at all possible, do not go back to that work place. going to a stressful place is only going to make your physical illness worse and add stress that will eventually take it's toll on you and your relationships. if you need the income, try finding a part time job during a time of day that your husband can stay with your daughter. that way you won't be spending money on child care.
if you don't really need the money, but just need time for yourself, try finding other moms who need the same thing. you can take turns watching the kids while the other one goes out for some much needed you time.

it sounds like you really love spending time with your daughter. can you continue to just live off his income? i know it is hard sometimes but there are ways to cut costs and make it happen if it's what you really want. and i'm sure you would enjoy your time with her more if you weren't so stressed out about finding a job or returning to the one you hate so much.

i also became very ill after my son was born, and i am home with him almost all of the time. my husband occasionally will take him out for a walk lately and that is nice. i can take a bath or do something i need to do. he is a great guy, but he doesn't know when i need a break. i have to tell him. make sure you tell your husband when you need a break too.

i hope you can come to a happy solution! i will be praying for you.

Hi K.,

That really is a heart-wrenching tale - to have a place of work upset you so much. I know you said you tried work from home and got scammed, but I want to tell you about what I do from home. It's my own business partnered with a great company and team, it has changed my life, I can stay home with my son, and it's totally risk-free and I promise you will not be scammed. It is totally legitimate, I work with a company that has been in business for almost 22 years and has won many awards for their business ethics. K., I don't want you to be so unhappy in work, I want you to be as happy and financially secure as I am. You need to get all the details about this, you need to make a change for the better (I could just hear the sadness in your letter). So give me a call ###-###-#### or send me your number and I'll call you. Take care!

Oh K., my prayers and heart go out to you. Keep in mind that attitude is everything and if you stay positive, you will be able to get through anything. Try going back to work. Sometimes we just need a break to regroup and refresh ourselves. While you are working there, keep your eye open for other opportunities, esp. if you still feel just as uncomfortable. Try not to live a life of regret, rather look forward and live in the present. Things will be ok. Remember, God is in control and He will take care of us and all our needs, all we have to do is pray and ask.

Another idea I have for you: maybe you'd want to try childcare, either in your home or in a center. It seems to be in high demand. You can make more $$ if you do it out of your home. Best wishes and may God take care of you and your family.

I'm confused, you've been out of work for a while so why do you still deal with your old boss? If I were you I would take all of the negative people out of my life. You do not need to give your time to people who are hurtful towards you. You are worth more than that! Please do yourself a favor and stop all your worry. Worry doesn't do anyone any good and it doesn't make anything better or make anything go away. Maybe you should go back to school. That way you could get the alone time you need and maybe a good job will come your way. Just start with one class. From there you will meet all different types of people and the more people you know the more doors will open. Who knows you could even get a part time job at a community college and they might help you with tuition.