GOOD FOR YOU!!!! Sounds like you have a great plan of action!!
I am sure it won't be easy. However, I think if you put the energy into your marriage that you were putting into your affair? You just might get the love and attention you were looking for!!
So often times people forget marriage is hard work!! I am sooo glad to hear that you actually heard the words from the people on here! There are some really good women on this board - men too!!
Have fun rekindling your marriage! Act like you are dating again! Slip him notes....telling him you love him...etc.