I Have a 2 and a 4 Yr. Old That Still Sleep in OUR Bed... HEEEELP!!!!!

I have never had that problem yet. I still have a 3 year old who could still end up doing the same thing. I don't know if you watch Super Nanny, but there was a episode on that very problem. They only had to deal with one child though. When it was bed time JO JO told them to take their child by the hand and lead her to her bed. While doing this you would say something like your a big girl now and you sleep in a big girl bed. Then read them a book, tuck them into bed, kiss goodnight and leave the room. You can say and do this up to 3 times,(but leave out the book reading part) after that you would just take their hand and lead them to the bed and say nothing. The first couple of nights it will get frustating having to do this time and time again. Since you have 2 who do this your husband would have to help with the other. This may sound like alot of work, but in the long run it will work. They will get it. It worked on the show and I think it took them 3 nights. After the little girl was very proud that she was a big girl sleeping in a big girl bed. If your 2 year old is still in a crib you will change the wording a little bit.
Hope this helps
C. :)

I haven't slept in the same bed with my husband in approx 3 years! I sleep with my 17 month old twin sons (who are nursing) and since their birth my daughter (who is almost 5) sleeps with my husband in her room. We even had to buy a larger bed for her room to accommodate them. When my husband works overnight I sleep with all three and I actually have to sleep horizontal across the foot of the bed because there's no room for me...

We feel like we are on the path to having them sleep in their own rooms soon...(I pray). My daughter goes to sleep alone in her bed but will get up during the night if she's alone. We will be moving soon and I think that creating a really cool new room with possibly a platform bed might entice her to sleep alone, and tell her daddy can't fit on it, etc.

I am hoping that the boys will sleep together and feel more comfortable since they will have each other.

I know it's hard but it won't last forever. I slept with my parents for a long long time and don't feel it had any ill effects on my development.

Good Luck(from one co-sleeping mom to another)!

Nowadays the family has from evolved from a unit where the parents were in control to where the kids dominate.Their desires are put before ours. We love them so much that we aim to please them and deny ourselves so much.

This is not the correct order, there must be a "paradigm reversal" if I may. Lets put the coach back in front of the team where he belongs. The team needs to see the coach in order to learn from him; if you get where i am going with this. Remember the days of old. Teach them with tough love before it is too late and they get into their teens and it gets even harder. Trust me, i am a mother of a 30 year old, a 26 year old, a 20 year old and a 16 year old.

No matter how much love we give them one day they will leave and start their lives with their spouses etc. Where does that leave us but with our hubbies/mates. So in a nutshell take back your sanctuary. hat belongs to you and your hubby. This is your private love nest,your boudoir. Cultivate it. Make it heaven on earth for you and your hubby. Allow limited access to the kids. Enjoy each other, you deserve it. Dance together,laugh together unwind share your deepest thoughts there. You both deserve it.

Then sometimes let your kids in to see you romancing each other. They will learn a lot about relationships, respect of property, love and discipline

Just my thoughts

Secondly your

Hi E.,
I agree with most of the answers you've already gotten. Since they are both girls they can share the same room. Get them cute matching bedspreads or if they share a bed, let them pick out one together. The 2 yr old probably won't care as long as it's a special time of re-doing their room together. You can do something as simple as getting a new night light. Make it a celebration and a big deal. When they get up, keep putting them back in their bed. It will probably take several nights, but you must stick to your guns. Don't give in.

Good luck!

I would try to implement a consistent bedtime routine that ends with your girls going to sleep in their own room. I would talk up how important it is that everyone sleep in their own beds and get enough sleep so they have energy to grow, play, etc. Take them to pick out new sheets for their bed. Maybe do a countdown on the calendar for the day everyone will sleep in their own bed. I would guess the 4 year old would understand the countdown better. When they wake up and come into your room, I would just walk them back to their room calmly and keep putting them in their bed. You don't have to yell, threaten, or make a big deal of it. Remind them gently about the rule that everyone is sleeping in their own beds now. It probably will be exhausting in the beginning. If you're not up for middle of the night bed battles, maybe you could put sleeping bags on the floor in your room. Then they could still be near you, but you would still be sleeping with your husband. You could remind them they have nice comfy beds with new sheets in their room. They may decide on their own that their own beds are more comfortable than the floor. I personally don't think there is anything wrong with cosleeping as long as all the parties involved are happy with it and it sounds like it's not working for your family anymore. Good luck!

#1 do not allow them to have anything white or dessert before bed, tell them How proud you are of them being such big girls,and that Mommy and Daddy have their bed and they each have there own bed, and tell them Mommy and Daddy will be sleeping in their beds from now on if this continues,and then follow thru their will be no romm in their beds for them so they can sleep in your bed to get a goods night sleep, then they will realize how lucky they are to have their own bed, read, read read to them 5 books a night my son is reading at 3 I think he has a photograpic memrory, hope this helps give them lots of chores and responibilities, wear them out before bed time, Hope this helps no soda no ice crea, no dessert sugar free jello it is the enemy of a childs body, and tell them together you are disappointed in their behavior and make them tell you why with a Target timer on eventually they will get it. Be firm, if it continues start taking toys away until they get it
Hope this helps.
C.

My Daughter slept in our bed for 2 years and when my son was born I put him in a co-sleeper for the first month than straight to his own crib in a room that my 2 kids now share. I bought my Daughter a very cute bed at Ikea...she liked it during the day...she was proud of it, but at night she wanted our bed. One night I said it was time for bed and she went to her bed...now that's where she sleeps.
She and my son usually wake up during the night, but we always put them back to sleep in their own beds. It is exhausting, but necessary. Mommies and Daddies need their private time or it will affect the marriage.

Babies and children are smarter than we think. Talk to them every day and let them know that is yours and Daddy's bed and they need to sleep in their bed. Keep kindly reinforcing this. I use the "turn system" in my home and keep reinforcing it and I also take MY turn. A lot of it is in the tone and actions that one uses...make it happy and up, but know in your heart and mind that you are sure. Children pick up your vibe if you are unsure they will play you.

My Midwife said to put them together in one bed in their own room. Everytime they wake-up put them back in their bed.
The mornings are okay to snuggle.
The trick is to be consistent.
I am sure by the time they are married they will sleep in their own beds.LOL!!!

Hi E.: I have 2 boys. The older one is 3 years and he was a premature baby and my husband spoiled him a lot. He used to take the baby every night to sleep with us against my will. Just because he wanted to be sure that the baby was breathing. When my boy Ivan was 2 years, I was tired of this and I painted his room, bring new decoration of cars, the movie. Bring new toys and negotiated with him. He really liked his place and left me alone in my bed. It worked for me. Maybe something like this can help you

I am not sure what kind of advice you recieved or has worked for you, or if I even responded already(mom brain). My girlfriend had the same situation with her girls and she used to call it having a sleep fairy every time the girls would sleep through the night they would wake up with a surprise under their pillow. This worked great for her, no problems it just took some getting used too. Go to the Dollar Store you don't want to be broke, or buy things that come in multiples. or even notes saying you can go somewhere special to play. Hope this helps. www.DiscoveryToysLink.com/LisaRyan L.