M.O.
Hi, I've been there and done that. I feel for you I really do. I have two 17 year old step kids, twins a boy and a girl. Been married for 11 years, not soon enough after we got married (2 months after) their bio mom sends them to live with us, they were 6 at the time. The boy has always lived with us and the girl has always been back and fourth from our house to her moms. I have a wonderful relationship with my step son but my step daughter, man has she made it difficult. My husband and I always argue when it cmes to her, she just moved back to her moms after having lived with us for 10 months. She left without telling me nothing.
I think your step son is feeling the effects of the relationship his mom and dad have, and maybe just maybe the mom is telling him bad things about you ( it happened to me). If you haven;t already tried this, please do, try to go on a play date with him just the 2 of you, movies, arcade, mall and when the time is right just talk to him and ask him if he knows you love him and see what his response is, then you can bring up and ask him why he behaves the way he does with you and that it hurts your feelings. For me it worked from time to time and we did these girly things together through out the 11 years but it just came down to she doesn;t want to share her dad with anyone if it;s not her mom. I know it might be hard, but try to block away any bad doings that he's done so that you are able to talk to him in a calm way.
I hope this helps, and let me know what happens.
Your new friend, who's in the same boat as you.
M.. (Marie)
ps.I was under alot of stress because of my step daughter that my husband and I could not get pregnant. Then after she moved out one of the times to her moms in 05, I finally got pregnant with a boy, then in June 07 her mom send her back to live with us cause she couldn't handle her. We were trying for another baby, suceeded in Nov 07 but lost it in Jan 08. I was under alot of stree again cause of her, now she's gone hopefully it will happen again.
You need to keep calm!! and remember you have a wonderful baby boy who loves you the way you love him.