So my daughter just turned 2 righht before Christmas and she was showered with gifts for both her birthday and Christmas. She recieved a bunch of baby dolls because I am due with her baby sister in a 7 weeks so everyone must have had the idea to get her used to the 'baby' thing. We have been talking to her about her baby sister and that she is in Mamas tummy but that I will be taking a trip to go get her very soon to bring her home. We also have picked out a name for her that we use all the time but just amongst the 3 of us as we like to keep this a secret until we can officially introduce them to the family with a name. Plus I dont like to hear everyones opinions on the name that WE picked out for OUR child. So my issue is this.... my daughter refers to her sister by name and has started calling all her dollys this name. Which is fine but whenever someone, ie: nosey family come over they will ask her what her babys name is and she will always say baby _____! And whenever its just us we are all for it and say right on your babys name is the same as your baby sisters but if its family or friends we feel bad at the fact that we act like we have no clue what she is saying
Are we being horrible by acting like my child is just gibberishly talking when someone asks her her babys name and we pretend like we have no clue what is coming out of her mouth?
She is too young to understand what you are saying. To her all babies have that name and she is going to continue to say it. Even if you guys help her name each of her dollies she is still going to call them the new baby's name. Just like all kids in child care call their teacher "Teacher" and all ladies "Mommy". It is just how they are wired at this point.
The error here was in telling your 2 year old to start out with. You aren't being horrible, but you are being dishonest and sending your child a strange message. One minute you understand her and the next you don't? That's kind of odd, especially to a child who is far too young to understand why you are doing it.
Fess-up and know that if you want to keep the name a secret, don't tell anyone at all!
Hate to tell ya, but if you wanted to keep it a secret, telling your 2 year old was the worst possible thing to do LOL! They are too young in language and development to understand what you are asking them to do.
I'd stop reinforcing with her that her dolls have the same name as the baby so she won't repeat that to others, but I wouldn't make her feel bad if she slips. She can't help it.
I too think it is funny AND that your are putting to much thought into this. In the big scheme of things it is not that important. Don't worry about it!
Don't be silly! No, you're not being horrible. You're over thinking this. Let your daughter name everything the baby's name and continue on as you have been.
I think you are thinking way too hard about this. Do what you want.
Oh my sounds like my daugther. She let the cat out of the bag more than once. Time and time again we told her it was a secret. LOL! If you truly want to surprise everyone than what you are doing is perfectly fine. :)
I agree w/live bold - it's really not that big of a deal. It's what' right for you and your immediate family so don't put too much emphasis on it. Just relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy! :-)
LOL, actually, I find that funny.
We kind of do the same, although we haven't shared any names with my son yet, because he is 5, and would take great pleasure spilling the beans!
We haven't selected a name yet, but for a while, had one in mind... people incessantly ask us what we're naming this baby, and we don't want to hear any comments until she's born and named. So we generally mumble something about having a list, nothing decided, we'll tell ya when we are discharged from the hospital, yada, yada, yada...
cant expect a 2 yr old to keep a secrect cats out of the bag embrass it
No you aren't being terrible. Just 7 weeks to go...
About your 2 year old though... is she generally hard to understand? The reason I ask is that I had a child with speech issues, and a lot of speech therapy, so I am always trying to help someone else if they are open to hearing how much speech therapy can make a difference in a child's life. By 24 months, the expectations of vocabulary and speech recognition are a lot higher than before 24 months. I highly recommend that you set her up for a speech and language evaluation. It is amazing what a little speech therapy can do for articulation while at this age. What you don't want is to wait until school starts to find out that she is very behind. Early intervention is a godsend.
Smiles, and keep counting the days until blastoff with the birth!!
Dawn
I don't understand -- are you saying that you haven't told other people the baby's name yet?
Whatever the situation: No, you're not being horrible -- it's fine to let your daughter call her dolls by her unborn sister's name.
I don't think there's anything wrong with you pretending you don't know what she's talking about. And I think she's too young to realize you're fibbing with other adults. I also think you'll look back at this and laugh ;) Hang in there, only 7 more weeks of acting like you're confused, lol. And congrats!
P.S. My daughter has decided to call all her dolls Jonah, and my son told his preschool teacher that's our baby's name! She actually put it on our family picture because she thought it was a done deal, lol. (I'm due in 5 weeks) When I told her that's the name HE wants, she explained to him that mommy & daddy get to pick the baby's name.
