D.B.
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My husband had a vasectomy 3 mos ago. He is due for his test in two weeks, so we are being very careful in the meantime. However, even if the test comes back that he is in the "clear", I am not sure that I trust that I won't get pregnant! I know it seems crazy and my husband thinks I am being silly. He thinks its all 100%. Of course, I told him nothing is 100% except abstinence (and you know that didn't fly). lol Maybe it's just that my fertility is not in my control for the first time, well, ever. Am I just paranoid?
I guess my nervousness will get better with time. :) Glad to know I am not the only one who feels this way. Thanks!
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I think you are supposed to "be careful" until you get the go signal. Vasectomies are usually very effective but if something were to happen it was meant to happen for a reason.
here is where i stand on the whole nip tuck of any reproductive organ. My parents are living proof. my mom had her tubes tied after having me. my father also had the snip snip. seven years later they sit my sister and I down and the conversation went like this..''So, girls!'' my dad says excitedly,''Remember how you have always wanted a puppy? I have one better for ya. youre getting a new baby''. I was seven it was tragic...she is now almost 21 and one of my best friends. So to be honest even after having had my tubes tied i keep a spare pregnancy test in my linen cloest just in case.
-libby
Just my experience, and it MAY be TMI: We've had sex over 500 times since my husband's vasectomy, and I got pregnant on the first try for all our four children before he got the procedure done... Vasectomies are pretty darn accurate- I believe it is the most accurate form of birth control.(?)
Gosh, I'll tell you- once you have that freedom of not worrying, sex can be better, cause there's nothing holding you back mentally.
You should be just fine if he test comes back shooting blanks....stop worrying! LOL!
DP-
I would avoid sex during ovulation during these next weeks...(assuming his test comes back with no 'live' ones)
Then...have him make 'another deposit' for your piece of mind...
Best luck!
Michele/cat
My husband had a vasectomy seven years ago and I am a very fertile person. We have three kids, and I get pregnant with each in a month or two. We have sex once or twice a week, so if it were not to work, I would have gotten pregnant. I felt nervous the first year or two, but know I am pretty confident that I will NOT get pregnant! I worry about it a bit, but there is such a small chance of vasectomies failing.
i have a friend who had a tubal and the husband got snipped. their daughter is now have a 17 year old daughter. i guess she was meant to be. R.
then you should do your part as well and be on birth control of some form and use condoms as well if that is the case.
I, too, was very nervous for a while after my husband's. In time, I felt more comfortable and 17 years later it's still working! Give yourself time.
What was the point of him getting a vasectomy then? Wait for the test and then have at it! :)
Maybe you are, but I can COMPLETELY understand feeling that way!
Perhaps it's the reason my DH has not volunteered to get the snip snip? LOL
I'd never thought of that. I think I'd be paranoid/scared just like you. I mean, the dr SAYS you're okay to not get pregnant, but if you do, Dr's not going to pay your bills or feed a crying baby at night. So no, you sound normal, or at least I think I'd be having the same thoughts as you. Tell your husband to go easy on you for now. Track your cycle and know when you are more likely to concieve. And ask the dr (or look up online) the percentage of people that get pregnant after a vasectomy. Take that percentage ans ask your husband if he's willing to get pregnant with that chance.
I know how you feel, my hubby just had his back in august and I can't help but thing maybe the late period is because I am pregnant (I am still breastfeeding so they are very sporatic) he was free and clear and I think I will get over it eventually.
Probably paranoia due to the impending test. Honestly if you have been having regular sex for the last three years w/o a pregnancy, you're probably in the clear!
It's normal. :) My husband and I were extremely fertile so we were both snipped. Two of our four children shouldn't even exist if birth control worked properly (pill, condom, etc.). I didn't want another section though (I'd had two) so I decided to have a tubal since they were in there anyway. And then after discussing it, he decided to have himself taken care of too just in case. We never even bothered to have him tested and we're still not pregnant almost 5 years later. If you're that worried about it, I'd either abstain until after the test, or just put yourself back on the pill.
OMG. I would probably be the same way! I am on birth control, but I still make my husband use the 'withdrawl' method! Better to be safe than sorry! I still worry about that 1% chance!!!!
My husband had one 5 yrs ago and so far so good. I hear that there is a chance that it doesn't work but most of the time it does. you have to trust it the best you can. Why get it if you don't trust it? In our case we don't often "let the ejac go inside of me" b/c I think it is smelly and makes me feel dirty until I shower so we kind of use that as helping out with the safe sex by pulling out anyway.
My ex-husband had a vascetomy and I never got pregnant - 1 month later and my 2nd husband had one and never got pregnant...as long as he goes back for the test and is shooting blanks you're all set!!!
I remember using another form of birth control for several months after my husband's vasectomy. He got tested more than once in the months that followed the surgery. We waited until we got the go ahead from the doctor before we didn't use birth control. Better safe than sorry.
my dad had a vasectomy and 10 years later they had my little brother. The key is the retests to make sure it took, my dad didnt do them.
Although the chances of it failing is small.... I too was uncomfortable when hubby had his v about 14 yrs ago. I continued on the pill just for my security.
I never felt 100% "free" and clear until I had my complete hysterectomy. That was the best thing I ever did.