I Dont Know How to Deal with What Seems like Depression

If you can afford to go to the doctor I would definitly do it! They helped me so much last time I went. I wish I could afford to go too because I feel the same way. It seems like it is a depression kind of day. I just posted a similar question. Feel better soon! Sorry you are feeling so down right now.

I went through a phase of depression.. I TRIED EVERYTHING NATURAL!!!!!!!!!!!!! Had all my blood work done.. I NEVER EVER EVER wanted to get onto an anti-depressant..I felt, people would think differently of me..... My friend told me "if you had a cold, you would take medicine, right. Well if you have depression and something could help you, why wouldn't you try it"... She was right!!!!! I got onto the lowest dose of zoloft and feel SO much better!!!!!! I'm still not a fan of telling anyone I'm on it, but why do I have to? When I got on it, I was embarrassed to talk to the doctor about it. She told me about 2 of 5 people are on something.. It's nothing to be embarrassed about.. I'm not saying to get onto an anti-depressant, I'm just saying, if you have to, don't be embarrassed like I was... :)

I've had depression for all of my life. I'm helped by antidepressants and counseling. Thru counseling I've learned to journal as a way of "talking" things out. I'm also helped by walking for 30 minutes at least 3 times/week and by focusing and helping others.

My grandchildren can get me out of a funk just by my knowing I'm going to see them. Having an outside interest is very helpful. For you the interest would be different than children and family. Perhaps be a movie buff and see a matinee every week or two. Find a support group. Make new friends. Seeing my friends is also helpful.

I urge you to talk with your doctor about how you feel and see if medication might help. Then start in some counseling. I think you will feel better.

I told my ob i needed something and she gave me birth control pills. huh? She said it might help. But because im breastfeeding i cant take anything. SOme days really suck and its all i can do to get through them. I'm sorry you are going through this. I know being with friends and keeping busy do help me. Take the kids for walks. Stroller for the 3 yr old let the 2 yr old run. Go to the library for story time. Talk to other moms.
GOod luck

As someone who has depression I say to you go see your doctor! Depression is a MEDICAL condition it is a chemical imbalance in the brain. You do not have to see a psychiatrist in order to have your depression treated. Go to your regular doctor explain what's going on and he will help you. You don't need or have to feel this way. With a 2 & 3 year old your hormones are probably still all crazy add in the other two kids and non communicative fiance and it is not a far stretch to think you might be suffering from depression. When any person goes through several stresses in a row their body goes into a depressive state it is a protection mechanism. So any person can suffer from depression at some point and time. Some people only need help for a short period of time just to get through the rough spots and some people like myself will need help for the rest of their lives. My point is you don't need to feel this way...it's NOT doing you any good or your family any good. PLEASE go see your doctor right away! Let us know how it goes praying for you!

My mom was like this after having kids.
Well, now I understand.
It's hard to the one to do most of the work all the time.
Having said that, you can get through this!
-Get outside when you can
-Take your kids to the playground at your apartment complex. Even just
to sit outside. Your son can sit w/his cast on & play w/cars, blocks etc.
It's good just to get out into the fresh air.
-Put them both into a stroller & go for a short walk
-Find 3 things minimum per day to be thankful for( ex. I have my kids, I'm alive & well, I have a roof over my heads etc. Start small & soon your list will snowball & get bigger
-Buy a cheap magazine $3 at the grocery store
-buy yourself some cheap flowers at the grocery store for a pick-me-up
-take your kids to the local library reading time just to get out. Plus it's quiet.
-call your friends for a talk on the phone
-rest when you can when the kids are playing
-ask someone for help. If anyone offers, have them come over. Even if it's just for 30 mins while you rest, read, take a shower etc
-call your medical plan to schedule an appt w/a counselor. It helps to talk
-if you do not have a medical plan, google free health care in your area
-rent an uplifting, funny movie from Redbox for $1. Laughter helps
-when you get into see a counselor or your regular dr, he/she can tell you if you might need to try some medication to help you through this time. It
doesn't have to be long term
-everyday when you wake up, be thankful that you are here & here for you kids
-Hang in there honey. Things will get better. They always do! Best wishes!

I am going to answer you with a copy/paste answer I gave someone earlier ;)

Try taking Saint Johns Wort and Vitamin C supplements regularly on a daily basis.

Also, maintain a structured routine, shower in the morning, eat healthy snacks like almonds, blueberries, trail mix, fresh fruit and veggies, avacodos, hard boiled eggs, fresh smoothies regularly throughout the day. Do about 10 minutes of excersize in the mornings, afternoons and evenings, even if it's just situps, jumping jacks or jogging in place. Get a zumba or yoga dvd or go for a 20 minute walk. There are a lot of ways to help train your body and mind. Say your prayers and read the scriptures. Organize a room. Join a moms or playdate group. Talk to your church advisor or a support group. Talk to your Dr or a therpist. I know severe depression needs meds and therapy usually, but this is a depressive funk you can break out it, it just takes a lot of motivation and hard work! I get depressed easily and these are some of the methods that help me.

So sorry you're having such a rough time. Definitely go and see a doctor if you can afford to. Even if you cannot you should be able to find help through your local health center. I've joined an online support group network www.supportgroups.com and they've been a blessing for me and my issues. I know how hard it is not to have anyone to talk to. If you would like feel free to message me. :) Hope things are easier tomorrow.

A few easy things that will change the chemistry of your brain and make it easier to cope:

1. get good quality sleep every night.
2. exercise at least 3 x a week for at least 30 minutes.

These have both been proven to be as effective as taking anti-depressants in most cases of depression.

Second, get yourself on a schedule. Make lists and focus on getting the things on the list done. And find 30 minutes a day just for YOU. I put my kids in front of the TV and then I read books, read posts here, etc.

Do you have any lady friends in your life? There is a possibility that you could be depressed. On the other hand, you have a lot on your shoulders and unless you can have some "mommy time" once in while, all the pressure you are facing will pile up and then, boom, things will explode (which of course is not healthy). The relationships that I have with my lady friends is what I consider "free therapy". Most of my friends are mommies with kiddos and we all face similar situations. Talking, laughing, and leaning on each other is so important. Have you ever considered joining a mothers group like MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers)?

One thing that a lot of mommies forget to do (since we are so busy taking care of others) is to take care of themselves. This is so very, very important.

Men and women have different communication ways so sometimes the way couples talk with each other can come across not the way it was intended. Listening is such an important part to communication.

Hope this helps!

You are dealing with a lot. Not a good sign if you can not talk to your fiance and he criticizes. Those kind of things only get worse after marriage.
I would find a good counselor. I love mine. She has made all the difference.
If the first one does not fit try another, but give them at least 4 visits before you decide. It is not a quick fix. Took you awhile to get to this place and will take some time to get lifted up. One step at a time and one choice at a time.

You should go see a doctor for help, and it will be up to him/her to refer you to a psychiatrist. You will feel a lot better, and will have someone to talk to. I suffer from depression my self. Good luck.

I would suggest talking to someone and since you can't talk to your family I would suggest seeing some sort of counselor or even a psychiatrist. Kids, and so many of them at one time, can be very hard to handle, better to seek help now than to wait until after you crack. Best of luck to you!