T.R.
If it were me I would leave. From what I have read from you it will only get worse. He sees he can push it & one day he will go to far. I know it seems hard but I know you can do this. It is better to raise him on your own with your famiy's help rather than be abused & threatened with violence. Your son sees & hears these things, he knows you are scared & he will either grow up to think thats the way it is everywhere or he will turn out just like him. I too was in an abusive realtionship, I stayed because he broke my spirit, had me believe I couldn't do it on my own ( I have no family to turn to) But I saw my son acting like him & I didn't want my daughter to think thats what a man does to people he loves. We all deserve better, YOU deserve better. Get out of it now, whether you leave town or not, he is not good for you or your son. He needs help with his anger & if he has resentment over the fact that you stay home to care for a child who calls him daddy, can you imagine what it will be like when you have a child together? It's hard for a man to see a child & think of them as thier own.He needs help, he needs to see someone about his anger & his resentment. But this is how it starts. I grew up with it, watched it with every man my mom dated & married. Ask your family for help. Keep us updated, I am worried yet very hopeful for you & I would like to know how things are for you.Keep your chin up too - my kids are alot happier now, and I found someone who doesn't lash out at me or take his anger out on me. There are wonderful men out there & when you least expect it you'll meet one.