I guess some reassurance. I was just told Tuesday that within 2-4 weeks I have to have a hysterectomy and some removal of my bowel and one ovary. I already decided in 1996 I didn't want any more children and had a tubal ligation. I donated a kidney to my oldest child whom I had by C-section in 1991. The reason for the hysterectomy is due to tons of scar tissue that is attached to both my uterus and my bowel. I have had enough surgeries and made it through them all, but when I told my son about this one, he asked if "God was going to take me?" I have one sister in town, she came with me Tuesday for a DNC and Hysterscopy, she dropped me off home and hasn't come to see me since.
My mom just had a total hystorectomy and partial bowel removal. Her's was because of cancer in her fallopian tubes that had spread. For her. She was in the hospital for one week after wards because they had to actually cut her open. Typically they can do lapraoscopy and it is A LOT less evasive. feel free to email me any time you want to talk. It sounds as though you feel alone and I am here anytime! In what area do you live?
I have no idea what it would feel like to have me, my whole reason for existance taken out. But I do know that my aunt has never had children and has also had a hysterectomy. She had many problems with cysts on her ovaries, which led to too much scar tissue and severe pain. During the removing of her ovaries, which was supposed to be a simple outpatient procedure, her bowels were punctered and she lived with a cholostamy bag for almost a year. She never complained, although we (my family) knew she was hurting on the inside. She will never be able to have kids but she embraces all of ours and treats them like her own. My point is try to think positive and embrace every moment. And if you have ANY reservations about your doctor, consult for a second opinion!!! Sometimes surgery is not always necessary, I am not second guessing you, but make sure it is necessary. You have already, it seems, been a wonderful mother. All children should know about the wonder and SECURITY GOD GIVES US!
R.,
Get a second opinion before having a major surgery like that. Have you researched the problem? With today's technology --- is there anyway of laser surgery or a Myomectomy? Before having part of the colon removed --- I would get another opinion. I can recommend a physician. Please e mail me at ____@____.com.
C.
By the sound of everything you have already been threw,, this will be a piece of cake! Have faith hun! Your not going to miss them parts at all!
PLEASE get a second opinion. I don't mean to frighten you but, on June 12th my mom went in for a hysterectomy. She had bled for over a month and this was the doctors way of correcting the problem (I guess). It took nearly 5 hours for her to come out of the recovery room. Then we were told she had kidney failure. The incision where they removed her uterus bled twice, she had a hematoma that then needed to be removed before it got infected. She then ended up in the ICU with a ventilator and liver failure in addition to the renal failure. After nearly five weeks in the hospital suffering needlessly she passed away. DON'T TRUST DOCTORS. THEY ONLY WANT TO CUT, CUT, CUT TO MAKE THEIR MONEY. THERE IS A HUGE PERCENTAGE OF HYSTERECTOMY'S THAT ARE PERFORMED FOR NO REASON AT ALL. GO GET A SECOND OPINION. YOU WILL FEEL BETTER ABOUT IT.
Hi,
I am a single mother who at 38 had a total hysterectomy due scaring and endometrious. That was 14 years ago and I have never once regretted it. My son was 18 at the time. I think your son is just old enough to think of the implications of surgery. You need to reassure him you will be fine and trust that you will be! Believe in your self and your own healing powers and your will to live!
And also think how much better you will feel when you are well.
This scare tissue is keeping you from feeling your best and you need to be in top health for your son.
You go girl! I know you can find the possitives!
A.
Dear R., you need to get more info. and explain to your son what is happening. Maybe with mor knowledge, he will not be so worried. Maybe your sis just needs a little time to digest the surgery. Call her and talk. I had to have a complete hysterectomy 1 1/2 years ago and a bladder lift also. It is like having a c-section again. Explain to your son that he will need to help you for a few weeks and the two of you will be fine. Maybe you can say some prayers together and find some strength thru GOD. You are not alone. God Bless
Hi there my name is P., I am new to this and saw what you had posted. I am a single parent of a 10year old and I had a Hysterectomy a year ago. I had everything taken, I am now on a hormone pill and a anti-depressent daily. I had the hyst due to Endometrosis. I just have to tell you that It truly was the hardest thing for me to go through, but with the help from god and family and friends I got through it. I have my moments though, sometimes I wonder if new before the surgery what I was going to be going through afterwards I may not have had it, but in the end it has been worth it. If I can answer any ?s please contact me, I will try and help. I know what your going through. Good Luck to you.
P.
My mother-in-law and three of my sister-in-laws have all had a hysterectomy. One of them had it when she was 20 years old and was unable to have children. Thank the good Lord that you were lucky enough to have one before this was needed. All surgeries went well and no complications! Each of them felt 110% better after their surgeries. Keep a positive attitude and good luck!
Dear R.,
It sounds like you have had a hard 10 years. I would like to refer you to a very comforting biblical website at
http://www.biblestudents.com/Suffering.cfm
Hopefully you will get some comfort and be able to share it with your son.
With Blessings wished your way, Megan
I am a medical transcriptionist and do a lot of reports on procedures like this. It shouldn't be any different than what you went through for your C section, and I am sure that you will feel better than you do now after your recovery is done. As far as your sister, could she be worried and not know how to express it? Maybe let her know you would like her support right now, just a sympathetic ear, she doesn't have to try and convince you that everything will be okay. It will be.
I would make sure to get a second opinion. Many doctors are quick to perform surgery, even when it's not really needed.
Hi R.,
I realize this is late but I have been trying to formulate a good response. Would you consider calling your sister? Just make it a routine call without any guilt on her part. I agree she probably is upset for your situation and doesn't know what to say. You'll both probably be glad you talked.
Then I would tell you that scar tissue can be healed so surgery can be avoided. I have heard many testimonials about it. I have a good friend you had a hysterectomy and has regretted it every day. At the time she didn't know there were any alternatives, but there are. Please let me know if I can get you more information. If surgery is the only thing you'll consider, assure your son that while there are dangers with any surgery, you have come through the others well and to think of this one as just another one. Talk to him of how he'll be able to help you afterward so he'll feel valuable and look to the future. Best of luck in whatever you decide.
