Husbands First Mother's Day W/out His mom...any Ideas?

My father passed away when I was 23. So that I still felt connected on Father's Day, our family would get together and talk about him. We would share special stories and it always ended up being very theraputic and memorable, full of some sadness and a lot of laughter.

Perhaps you can make a small appearance with your mom, but then go out and have a little remembrance party for his mom. Maybe make him a special photo in a frame or even an album of him and his mom together during his childhood. You can even ask her family members and friends who knew her when she was young to share some stories of her youth in letter form.

If he is having a hard time I would definately plan something with your mom early so you don't miss out on that time with her and spend time with your hubby on Mother's Day. Is there something you can do to honor her. Frame a nice pic of him and her. Collect some old photos that need to be put in an album. When my significant others grandma passed she was like a mom to him. They gave him all the old pics she had collected from over the years. They just tossed them in a box and gave them to him. They sat in the garage for a few months until I took them out and cleaned some of them and put them in a nice photo book for him. I made a stack of pics of people I didn't know and left empty pages for him to finish the book. He said it was the best gift he could have ever received.. and it was Mother's Day.. In my aunt's house a photo of her mom on one side and a photo of her husband's mom on the other side as you begin to walk up the stairs. He may not be ready for all that. Maybe fix him a favorite meal she use to cook or just be there for him is sometimes all it takes.. I hope this helps out a little and your hubby is in my prayers and this too shall pass!

i am having the same problem..but reversed. My husbands father passed away unexpectedly a couple of months ago...and due to the winter months he hasnt been buried yet. His dad would have been 54 next week..June 22. and then we will be buring his ashes on the 26th. This fathers day i am sure will be tough...we have two girls oursleves. But i am trying to plan a day to try to keep his mind off not having his dad here with him. We live two houses dow from where he lived. and my husband and his father owned a business together..we saw him everyday.

My husband's Mother passed away four years ago. The first year after her passing I told him I was okay if we did not do Mother's day. He said that it was not fair to me. The first year we ordered food and had a quiet time at home. The next year I went with my Mother. Four years later still painful, but we can go out to restaurants now.

as someone who's lost their father 12 years ago, father's day is still hard to handle. i do it up only because my sons have a father, but then i go to the gravesite and have some time with my dad. i also have a bit of me time that evening which usually ends with my hubby comforting me. no it doesn't get easier. time doesn't heal wounds. closure doesn't exist. that's reality as sobering as it is.