K.H.
Well, something on this subject, I was allergic to Chocolate as a child and my husband was allergic to milk items, we thought that our children wold be allergic to something, and all three of them have nothing to do with any type of allergies. My husband always has ear infections with tubes, and always had asthum and oher types of sickness when he was a child and so he always thought that our children would have something. What are doctor told us is that sometimes things will skip generation. Not everyone will get what their paents have. Always ake your time with the talking and the speech. Our first son always had issues with talking and the think its because he was not around other chldren. They would ask us to read childrens books to him if he was not goig to be around other children. It help alot but will still put him into a speech class when he went to preschool, and I'm glad we did. He has become so bright. His reading has gotten so much better. For my other two children wel they always had their brother to talk to. the youngest had both his brother and sister plus day care so he was involved with the whole thing. I would say enjoy what your children can do and say right now and try to think of ways to help with what they are going through and try to not think its always because of you. I was never a bright student but 3 of my other brothers were very bright, but I'm very creative and they are not, people are just different and they are better at tings then others. Don't think for a minute that your children will be just like you because all three of mine are bright and I was not very bright. I really think your son being 2 is just fine, I think your husband is just making this to hard on himself. If he really wants to get into the speech thing with his son, ask him to get the scolastic books and sit and read with him, that will help them connect better. The first borns are slower to get things so fast then the ones that grow up with them. If you think the baby can not hear take him in and have his hearing checked. Then if he is ok your husband will be more relax about it. Now in these days they can do so many things for helping our children with anything that they might struggle with. I'll keep you guys in my prayers and I hope you will find what you need for everything. I hope this helps.
K.