K.Z.
I had the same problem with my husband this year. he didn't lie to me about doing it (how could he deny it?). He did however lie about buying them and how much he was actually smoking. I just sat down with him "calmly" and "alone" and told him how I felt about it. I spoke about my concerns and how I felt betrayed. My daughter caught him once and completely broke down (She's eleven). Soon after I guess the guilt was eating away at him, and he went to the doctor and got put on welbutran to help him quit. he hasn't smoked in a month. We pray that he won't start again, and he is pretty confident that he is done. Good luck to you.