Husband Needs Help with Insomnia

Maybe hubby is feeling a little neglected? I don't wanna assume, but we ladies are the same way right?

I know that if I have a problem and my husband doesn't ask me what is wrong I get even more upset that he didn't notice. Ha ha!! We're a little nutty aren't we ladies?

But this might be the case for him too. We all need attention and the feeling of acceptance. As I said, I might be off base here... but ask him what is bothering him. It might help.

Now, on the physical end of it. Try turning down the lights of your house as the day gets darker. It will help release melatonin in his body. Bring down the stimulation in the house... turning off the TV or turning it down.

I know this might sound a little kinky... but have you tried sex? Most men do fall asleep after sex, mostly because it takes so much energy out of them, and clears their minds too. Not to mention, you get something out of it and it will increase your intimacy.

Try the natural things before going the pill route.

Good luck my friend and let us know what happened.

~B

I have insomnia problems, I started drinking organic Passionflower tea about a year ago. It is wonderful, works better than any pm med. So relaxing. Check GNC. The one I use is Traditional Medicinals Nighty Night Tea.

I feel for him - I really, really do. Sleep problems are horrible. I went through a stint about a year and a half ago where I couldn't sleep any more than 3 hours a night. I tried everything. Ultimately, I think I was stressed about having another sleepless night. I set myself up every night for no sleep, and then it would happen. After trying more exercise, no caffein, melatonin, etc. I did finally go to the doctor. I'd suggest that for sure - there could be something going on that is keeping him from getting proper sleep.

I know he doesn't want to use sleeping pills and I completely understand that. I just thought I'd share my experience... I was in the same boat - completely opposed. However, after almost 3 months of no sleep I think I was losing my mind! I used some prescription sleep-aids for 2 weeks, then went down to a few times a week then down to only if I had a problem for more than 3 or 4 nights in a row. It just helped my body get back into a healthy sleep pattern and once I was well slept and rested, I had a much easier time falling and staying asleep every night.

As for support - just take it seriously. Try and get him into the dr. Maybe offer a message before bed... or something else :) which is very relaxing. Try to understand in the middle of the night. He'd really rather be asleep, and worrying about if he's waking you up will just add to his inability to fall asleep.

Hang in there. It's the worst not being able to sleep. When I was going through it I remember feeling very understanding of people that go to "recovery centers" for a few weeks or a month, to get their act together. I felt like I needed that, it was seriously making me crazy!

Good luck.

I'm studying nutrition for my Masters degree. Based on what i have read and what I have tried, I would recommend starting out with some magnesium. It is connected with healthy sleep rhythms and is very easy to become deficient in. The second thing that I would recommend looking in to would be GABA. It's an amino acid that we sometimes become deficient in. Another thing that has shown positive results is L-tryptophan. It's the precursor to melatonin and will trigger the body to make it naturally. I do not recommend taking melatonin as it can interfere with the body's ability to make it for itself.

A.,

Have your husband try hypnosis. Have them make a sleep tape for him that he will listen to each night. It works wonders!! Also, writing a list of all your worries and put them in a box. Commit yourself to not think about them once you have put them in the box. I know it sounds kinda crazy, but it will help. As for you being supportive, ask him what is bothering him the most. Listening will probably be the best way that you can support him and encourage him to see his physician to help as well.

Good luck,

Molly

Sounds a lot like my house! Has he tried Melatonin? It's natural, can be found at any health/nutrition/drug/grocery store in the vitamin section. It has done wonders for my hubby when he needs it. As for the support, I'm pretty cranky in the middle of the night too. I will usually just get up and sleep on the couch....keeps us from arguing when we are at our worst. As for support, I don't know. Has he seen his doc? Maybe something else is going on, or the doc can recommend something. I also agree with the previous poster. I don't know about hypnosis, but I have a meditation cd that can put me to sleep. It took me awhile to get to that point, but it really can help.