My husband has this need to tap, nudge, kick, make noises, etc... when it is silent or nothing is going on. Its driving me crazy! If I am just reading something on the net he will nudge me or touch me in some way and I have said "yes?" to see if he needs something and he just continues to do it. I have tried ignoring it so he will stop but then he says "Whats wrong?" He will make weird noises to himself whether it be singing or otherwise and if I dont have a reaction he will ask what is wrong or just assume something is wrong. Sometimes he will sing some of a song and usually I will sing the rest but if I am just not in the same mood as him he will assume I am mad or something. Or purposely humming while yawning. IF he did this occasionally it would be ok but its almost ALL DAY! (Correction: All Day meaning after work or on days he is off) Am I freaking out? lol
He also makes comments towards what is on TV like if it is someone he doesnt like he will make a comment (and these comments are usually mean and he says them not even looking at me nor am I watching what he is when he does this). Its as if he is trying to get me to react or something.
My husband starts doing that stuff when I am reading, on the phone, texting, looking at the computer, etc. etc.
No you aren't freaking out. He is a man.
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Sounds like he just wants attention.... acting like a kid does.
When or if he stops one day, you will miss it.
He's hyper. He can't help it. Plus, he's male. It's in the DNA. My hubby and son both do this. I found myself telling my son to quit making random noises because he was driving me NUTS one day, and in walked the hubby. He looked at me like I was crazy, and I asked him what was wrong. He said why are you telling him to stop that? What is he hurting? I said he is DRIVING me NUTS! He laughed at me, and told me it was a boy thing. (he was playing a video game at the time, but the noises and movements had NOTHING o do with the game) Then, later that night, I walked in the livingroom, and found the hubby doing almost the SAME THING watching tv, twiching, playing with the remote and little things on the coffee table, and constantly making silly little noises throughout an entire hour long tv show. I never realized how much HE did it until I sat and really paid attention to him doing it. Yup, he was right. The crazy, silly little noises with his mouth, and he will even pick up a random word from the tv show or commercial and say it several times over for the rest of the night. Last night was "artwork" He said it with a weird twang to it. He thought he was hysterical. (not so much) He wasn't saying it to ANYONE. He will add it to random sentences, make jokes with the word, etc. Weird. The other night it was GORGEOUS. (I liked that one better, because he kept saying it to me) No, my hubby doesn't have tourette's, or isn't bipolar. He IS actually adhd, but thats it. I just think it's a guy thing. If I give him loads of attention, he does it less, but I have stuff to do sometimes. :) Honestly, I kind of think it's cute. <3
Has he tried video games? Does he like to read?
My husband gets twitchy and talky whenever I'm writing or reading on the web. If he is playing a video game or reading he gets into his own world. Unless he's reading nonfiction, in which case he shares interesting facts or pictures.
We have a hyper focus/attention deficient household. We're either REALLY into something, or totally inattentive. No middle ground. So, the guideline is, get someones attention BEFORE you tell them something. I mean, actually GET their attention, which usually means saying the someone's name a few times before it really registers. If my husband doesn't do this, I just figure he's talking to himself about his television program or what have you.
I'm also pretty pooped by the time he gets home, and him too. So we have to communicate our needs to each other: I just want to sit and be lazy and not talk right now or, can we hang out or, let's cook dinner together or, let's put the girls on a movie and we'll watch a quick program.
Hints don't work very well around here. We have to be very direct and not at all subtle when we ask for attention or inattention.
Does he have a mild case of Tourette syndrome?
If he does it just for you, it's just an attention thing.
And I've got to think there's something sort of wrong for someone who's always itching for constant attention from you even/especially for trivial things.
I'd have a doctor and/or a psychologist check him out.
At first, I thought that he might just need the noise (Because you said something about it being silent when he does this). I hate silence! Drives me nuts! But now I'm leaning towards attention
My three year old does this when he needs attention.
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Oh...I wasn't talking about sex. Eek! I wouldn't never use my analogy of my child for that. I guess other people are saying sex, I just meant attention in general!!
i like physical affection a lot. is he one of these people?
I have found if my boyfriend willingly pulls M. in for a little affection (whatever kind it may be) I am content when he's doing his own thing...if I'm desiring physical contact I may nudge him a little when he;s doing his own thing
Maybe physical affection isnt his thing, but find out what it is and try and fill a little of his needs sometimes J. to make him feel loved, listened to, touched, whatever it may be and then he may be content to leave you alone
When he nudges you, I think he is wanting attention. When he sings part of a song and you finish, that is nice. His little noises to himself are just indiosyncracies that you have to put up with - and he has to put up with yours. Making comments to the TV is just something that men do. Perhaps he is trying to engage you in conversation in his own childish way.
First: Aye! Philly!!! Im from Philadelphia! Lol! But maybe he wants your attention. My fiancee does that when he wants my attention ;) if you catch my drift! lol (well that was before I was pregnant lol)
