This did make me laugh. Not at you, but at our husbands. I'm not patient when it comes to adults who are dramatic, especially when they are sick. I want to tell them to snap out of it and handle it like an adult. When it comes to my kids I'm totally different and my husband has even pointed that out. If an adult is having major health problems I'll do anything I can to help them. But just don't whine about it!
So a few months ago I was in a car accident that left me in terrible back pain and I was miserable. I had to see a chiropractor and go through painful massage therapy. I was there twice a week for 10 weeks. My dh really pitched in and took me to almost every appointment, helped a ton around the house, did some of the grocery shopping or brought dinner home, etc.
So last week he got sick with a really bad case of the flu. He had the cold, sore throat, body aches, sweats, fever, etc. He was soooooooooo dramatic about it. I'm laughing now but he about drove me nuts with the, "I'm dying" comment over and over. You would have thought he'd just had open heart surgery. BUT! I felt I should do everything to help him because 1. He was a huge help to me and 2. I knew he'd throw it in my face if I didn't, lol.
Anyway, when we're tired and grumpy we're going to say and do things that we shouldn't. Your husband was hurting and grumpy. You were tired and grumpy. It happens. I would just explain that to him and say next time BOTH of you will handle it better.
My husband did get grumpy with the kids the other day from this. I told him I understood he was really sick but that was not a reason to take it out on the kids. He agreed and stopped snapping.
OH, I also remember a time when my mom walked through heavy snow to the store to get a chocolate candy bar for my dad because he insisted that would make his sore throat feel better!