Husband Broke His Heel/upcoming Wedding Attendance

I would go. It's in a few weeks so he will have healed some in that time. Friends, neighbors, etc. can help a little bit. He should be resting most of the time. Have meals made up for him so he doesn't have to do more than microwave. There are home health aids that could help, and it would probably be cheaper than changing the plane stuff.

He can use crutches, or even an office chair with wheels to get around the house. Can someone in his family visit to help him out for a few days?

Maybe I'm heartless, lol, but I'd leave him and go!

I've sprained my ankle twice and broke my foot once, delivered a bunch of babies, and had an emergency laparotomy. After 2 or 3 days of strict rest, I figured out how to take care of myself and all of my kids (and I have 5). Crutches are a beautiful thing.

Yes, it's nice to be taken care of, and to give care to others. It's also okay to take care of oneself.

I would go to the wedding.
I'm not heartless, it's just that I'm a single mom and I've had a broken leg, shoulder/arm and rib. The leg was the roughest because of mobility issues and yes...it had to be my right leg. However, I mastered crutches pretty rapidly.
When my dad passed away, there was no way I could fly across the country to attend his services, but I certainly wanted my sister to go. She considered not going since I couldn't, but I told her that was silly. I needed her there for both of us.
Anyway, I would make up some meals ahead of time that can be in the freezer. Get plenty of groceries for the house. Do you have a neighbor that can stop by to check on him?
I'm posting a link for a company that has a location in Everett. They might be able to help you. I'm very familiar with the company here where I live, they are individual franchises, but the caregivers are all background checked etc. They even have male caregivers. If your husband doesn't have a friend that can come over and hang out while he takes a shower or bathes just to make sure he doesn't fall or something with no one there, I would give them a call. They can help with meal prep, tidying up, errands, taking him to the doctor if he needs it. They could send somebody for a couple of hours every day or every other day. Whatever you think he might need. I can guarantee that it would be cheaper than eating your plane tickets. Your husband's doctor might even be able to give a referral for an agency that can help out.
You'll only be gone 5 days and he'll probably be laying around for most of it whether you're there or not. Someone to make sure he showers safely and he has plenty of food should be all he needs. He might like having the house quiet so he can just rest. I don't know.
I think he'll be all right.
He wasn't going to the wedding in the first place. He had an accident you couldn't have foreseen. It's only 5 days. I think you should start planning now for having him cared for while you're gone and go.

Just my opinion.

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As long as there are no complications from the surgery, I think I would plan to go. How does your husband feel about you and your daughter going to the wedding? You still have a little time to decide. If you make preparations in advance (meals, laundry, medication), he will be just fine. Have a friend or neighbor check in on him everyday. If his family will be upset, maybe one of his sisters can come and visit him for a few days while you are gone. He should be the one to deal with the feelings from certain members of his family.

If you do decide to go, maybe you could do some things to make it easy for your hubby while you're gone. Like make up some meals that he can easily pop in the oven/microwave. rent a lot of movies that he might like...uh... I'm already running out of idea. Make sure there are plenty of towels handy in the bathroom. Buy paper plates so that he doesn't have to fret about dishes.

I'm sure you could think of some things, but anyway if you are going I'm sure there are all kinds of sweet wifely things you could do to make it easier while you're gone. That's a tough call on whether to go or not, so all I can say is good luck and SO sorry to hear about his injury. :-)

I would look at getting a home health care service to send someone in to help him. Maybe you could get his doctor to write a script for it and have the insurance cover some of it. My mom had a very similar circumstance with my dad and hired a service. The caretaker was wonderful and of course, she was bonded. She cooked, cleaned, and helped out with whatever he needed. It might be a little pricey, but at least you'll know he is getting help. Another option would be to put your hubby for a respite type care at an assisted living place. They specialize in short stays. They'd do the same thing as a home health aid would, just at their facility.

I would hire a part-time nurse for the weekend. Depending on your insurance it may be covered! It may also be cheaper then trying to change the flight. This is still several weeks away so he may be mire mobile by then.

Ask your husband what he wants you to do.. Stay home with him or does he think he will be fine so you go with daughter..

Other option daughter go with someone else..

You have several more weeks before the wedding. While your husband can't stand for long periods now, he may be able to stand for ten minutes (with the aid of crutches) by that time.

If I were in your shoes, I would make up all the meals he would need before you left, put them in Tupperware/Gladware and put them in the fridge. This way he can just get up, go to the kitchen, nuke one and sit back down. When it's done heating he puts the lid back on (tightly) and carries it back. Sure, it's going to tip around and get all mixed up, but it won't get on the floor. Then just have him put the dishes in the dishwasher (or even just in the sink) and you can take care of them when you get back.

Ask one of his friends if they can drop in and check on him at some point.

That's what I would do.

I would go...this is in a few weeks. I am sure that your husband will improve by this time...he wasn't planning on going anyway. Just stock up the fridge and make sure he has everything he needs before you go...

You do what is best for YOUR family. Emergencies happen, and plans have to be adjusted. Any family members who have "feelings" about you taking care of your husband's needs first, can just sit down and STFU.

You have no neighbors or friends at all? It seems like he would be ok as long as he can get to the bathroom by himself. If he is set up with the tv and remote control and some friends checking in and out he will be fine. I would not cancel.

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Talk to your husband. It is his family and him that would be home alone. See what he wants you to do and let him make the final call (and notify his family if you aren't going).

Do you have any friends or neighbors that could pop in and help him? You could prepare some meals ahead of time and they could just stop in to fix a sandwich for lunch or heat up his dinner and check on him.