M.P.
After flounce. I suspect we got too close to the truth. Her loss.
I suggest that you set up your room to be darker. Have a conversation with him when he's rested. I worked graveyard for years. Getting good sleep during the day is difficult. He needs help to make daytime sleeping good.
Why did you wake him up? I'm not surprised he was angry. How would you feel if someone woke you up to tell you to move to a different bed? By fighting with him over this you are telling him his daughter's nap is more important than him having good sleep even tho he's the one working to provide necessities for both of you.
I suspect you and your husband have other issues to resolve than just where he sleeps. Fix your bedroom right away for daytime sleep. Next find out why you're so angry that you would wake up the bread winner so your daughter could sleep alone in the room. I suggest counseling, personal or with him, will help.
After your addition. You and your husband should be partners. He provides the money and you take care of the house. Exactly why is it more important that your daughter get good sleep when your husband does not get good sleep.
'm sure you could get a job and bring in the money. Then you'd have a different complaint. Then you would complain about why he not working.
You seem really defensive about being a stay at home mom. I urge you to figure out why so you can feel as important. I suggest you're angry be cause you feel less important than your husband so you use your power to show him he's not important thus making you feel more important. YoU are just as important to the family as he is. You're using power in a way that is damaging the family. Here's a question asked of me several years ago. Would you rather be happy or be right. You have the power to choose either one. Know that often they are mutually exclusive from one another.
BTW if my spouse refused to let me sleep where I could get the best sleep, I would find somewhere else to sleep. Perhaps at his work there is a sleeping room. Or he could go to a relatives or friends house. Good sleep is essential to keeping a job. Getting darkening curtains for your room is a win/win. Why do you have to fight about it?
Maybe because you feel the fool for asking the question? Recently I sent off an email venting and wished i'd waited to calm down first. I felt embarrased. If you are defensive because you feel embarrassed, know that all of us have those moments. We're all human. It's hard to admit a mistake. Admitting a mistake shows maturity and a willingness to accept that none of us are perfect.