K.F.
It is time to flip the script or do something different.
It is time for you to take the next two weeks off. Find something you can do each night for the next two work weeks. Make some excuse you can use to give your husband the responsibility of taking care of the kids without any help over the next two weeks. He should be cooking, cleaning, etc. all of the things you do he should do. Don't critique any of the things he does around the house or with the kids. Get your break and let him be more responsible. Perhaps at some point toward the end of this exercise he may come to appreciate all you do and change some of his ways.
He needs more hands on and you need less hands on.
Here are some suggestions I would use to get some help: possible injury to back, hands or arms which would prevent you from accomplishing household tasks, some special project at work, get involved in some outside the house groups or organizations and attend two weeks of their everything, or any other thing like that which would keep you engaged for two weeks.
Give it a try and see what happens. Counseling or parenting classes will also help if he is willing to take them. If not, life is a great teacher.