S.K.
Sit down and talk, NOW. Get a sitter (grandma?) and make him aware of how you feel.
This is something I am very experienced with. My first marriage, which meant the worrrrrld to me, went up in a puff of smoke before we ever had kids, over these same issues.
Your anger may build and build until the sex is gone, the fun is gone, and the love is gone. You are probably fairly young with the age of your child and some of the things you've said. Get this corrected right NOW, and get your path straightened out, so you both understand and respect where the other is about things.
Does he think because you don't bring money into the house you have no power? DO YOU feel you have no power?
I have found in my marriages, friendships--hell,even with my sisters and brothers, what you accept from them is what they'll give you more of...you REALLY DO teach people how to treat you.
Get strong J.. Say what you feel and why. Of course he works hard and deserves perks. You work hard and deserve perks too, and the kind of perks we women want many times are new flooring for the bedroom, or a new tree in the front yard.
You said something very telling "I get to do everything EXCEPT work". HA! Get on the phone today. Find out what you'd pay a gardener. Find out what you'd pay to have someone come in and clean, and watch that baby, and cook three meals. get those groceries home and in the cupboard. SERIOUSLY. You won't even believe what some people pay for these services, AND GIRL, SOME PEOPLE DO PAY FOR THESE SERVICES. Write it down, and have it with you when you talk. He may bring home the paycheck and have the profit sharing, but if you died tomorrow X is what he would pay to live the same life when he came home with his sore muscles.
YOU GO GIRL. You have worth, and you need to know it and wear it like a mighty suit.
You're going to get A LOT of responses. You are sooooo not alone.
One last thought? Will he read a book with you? Relationship Rescue. It's a Dr. Phil book--you know he's a no bull guy and he appeals to men too. It really helped us. if he won't, read it yourself.
Keep us posted!
S.