My son will be turning one in December and I would like to have a little get together with close friends and family at our favorite restaraunt. I will be sending out invitations in a couple weeks and I dont know if I should say or how to say that we cant pay for everyones meals. Is it assumed that they will pay for their meals or do I need to put it in the invitation, and if so, how to say it without sounding rude.
I still dont know what to do, but thank you for all the advice. For the woman who suggested we have it at our house- we cant because we live in a very small apartment and there is no way we could all fit. That is the reason we are having it at a restaurant because I think they will be abke to accommadate the crowd.
Y.,
You could also list a little memo on the invitation that would include what you are providing such as "refreshments and cake" or "cake and ice cream". Good luck!
- C.
I would agree with Teryn...listing the range of the entrees is the most tactful way of putting it, I think. You could also include directions to the restaurant and parking instructions (if applicable) to make it 'blend' in! :) I think it would almost eliminate the possibility of someone thinking the food was on you.
I'd suggest putting something on there that states each person is responsible for their own meals as it's pretty much assumed when someone goes to a party that they are guests and not normally paying for their food.
Perhaps you can do the appetizers and tea or sodas for each person and if they choose to eat more then they'd have to pay their own way.
C.
You could word it a little "cute" like... "Your dinner is on you... but the cake is on _______" and put your kids name in it... just to kind of play it off.... ??? just a thought.
maybe you could provide everyone with appetizers (since it's a celebration for your child) and write that on the invites and then follow up with entree's range $-$$. That would be obvious they are expected to pay.
Good luck.
I think if you put "dutch treat" it wouldn't be rude... The people know. OR call the restaurant ahead of time and have the waiters ask each person who will be on their ticket when they order! That might even be better!
R.
"No Host" is what I've always used when guests are responsible for their own bill.
Any way to have this in your home? It is almost assumed if your invited, the person inviting you to the party is paying. A way to get around a big bill could be what's suggested or just have a personal get together with finger sandwiches, fruits or veggies and home made cake! It would save on money and make it more personal. Just a suggestion and good luck!
