How to Stop Drips of Pee in Pantys from 4 1/2 Girl

Disabled kids often have these types of problems. With anxiety, depression, sensory processing and autism all together - I'd be surprised if she wasn't having an issue like this! Do she have an occupational therapist or a behavior modification specialist you can work with? You would be much better served by working with local people who are familiar with her diagnoses and medications.

I am not a big fan of potty training at 11 months or 2 years - I think it often fails because the kids are not developmentally ready. In fact, she may have problems with the sensory aspects of knowing her bladder is full, even at 4.5 years of age.

Talk to the pediatrician, her therapist or her neurologist about what services would be best for her.

I'd try calling your pediatrician and asking if seeing a pediatric urologist would be beneficial.

In the meantime, you can manage the mess by using cloth training pants. They look just like underwear but have extra padding. Keep in mind this isn't unusual at her age. The nurse at our elementary school asks for donations of underwear and pants every year because accidents are such a common occurrence.

Kids between age 4 and 6 often have this. This is why they always bring an extra set of clothes to Pre-K and Kindergarten. They have accidents. Their brains take off and they start wiring all sorts of new stuff and the bladder stuff just goes on the back burner. They get so focused on stuff that they don't feel the signals to go pee on time. Often it's coming out before they realize they have to go.

This is normal, I have told parents this for years and they all say "Not my kid, they're potty trained" but it's not about potty training. It's about their brain closing that window a bit and then opening other windows so information is flowing in and out of those other windows.

As for this girl, she's probably going to have issues for the next couple of years with this. She has a LOT of other challenges to go along with this so I'd say just let it go and plan on her changing her panties quit often throughout the day.

Our disabled son still isn't fully potty trained and can go to school. If your daughter has been diagnosed with a disability, the school will let her come in pull ups/diapers if she needs to.

I'd just continue to use the pull ups during the day and not worry about it. Keep an extra bag of pull-ups at the nurses office at the school and they can check her at lunch time to see if she needs to be changed into a new one.

Good luck

I don't understand why you potty trained at 11 months. That means you trained her for over a year.

I don't follow.

Also - drips? have her wipe properly.

Kids don't pee a little bit - they go. This doesn't make sense to me.

You remind me of a mom we had on here not that long ago (actually, turned out not to be a mom in the end..) who listed all kinds of disorders with her child and then asked us what to do.

If you're talking about literal drips/tiny amounts, and she has already been medically cleared for UTI and other issues, my suggestion is to use pantyliners in her underwear, the super thin kind with adhesive to the edge, like Always Thin Dailies. Many adult women do the same when they have a similar minor issue with sneezing/coughing after having kids.

I second Barb's suggestion of a pediatric urologist if she hasn't already seen one. You need to know that special needs kids often have bathroom issues. Sometimes it is temporary regression or condition, sometimes it is ongoing. Try to not get frustrated with her about it, because this isn't a choice she is making. Keeping on top of her bathroom use is likely to be something you will have do for some time to come. Her school will need to know about her needs so they can help with a plan for when she is there.If you have not already been in contact with the counselors and SpEd team, contact the school as soon as they have office hours again.

"...we started potty training at 11 months."/"She was very hard to potty train." - Most kids don't start potty training until after age 2 (mine were both 3+) so starting her at 11 months may have caused unnecessary difficulty for the both of you, particularly in light of her existing issues. That ship has sailed, but I mention it so that you can have some perspective in regards to why it was hard.

Please stop pushing this child. Potty training at 11 months? Are you kidding? No wonder she has anxiety.

The word for "backed up" is constipated. OR if you mean that she held her poop and wouldn't have a bowel movement, then you say that instead of saying "backed up on her poop" so that people understand what you are talking about.

If you are saying that she has been diagnosed with autism, please learn to spell this word correctly. If this is the case, you will need to write that word hundreds of times during her childhood. Writing "dinonced with her disorders and altisum" doesn't help your reader and makes it seem that you don't have much understanding about your daughter's problems. It is your job to learn and educate yourself. Ask your ped for internet sites that you can TRUST to give you good information.

Your child is disabled. Instead of expecting her to not have drips in her panties, you should be accepting of her and not tell her to "be strong" If she is constipated, the pediatrician should be helping you with either a medicinal aid for it, or a diet to help overcome the problem. If you haven't gotten a diet for this, you should. If she is holding her poop in, then you definitely need help from the doctor. And trying to force her or lecture her will just backfire.