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If you are lucky the pediatric dentist is skilled in this area, usually they will take the child back alone to do the exam because most moms are nervous about this! Moms fears even well hidden are seen by children. You need to remain calm if they do want to take the child alone because they are professionals and they have the skills needed to get her to show her teeth to them, the calmer you are the better it is for all involved! both of my girls have been going to the dentist since they were 2, and every once in a while they do get cavities but they are not scared of the dentist either and the oldest just finished with braces and loved going to the dentist!!
good luck and remember, just stay calm, its the best!
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