How to Make My Son Independent, Confident and Bold, Please Help Me

As Shira P said you cannot make him anything. You can be with him, build his confidence by supporting him in all the ways he needs to be supported. I suspect that you're pushing him away in an effort to make him more independent when in reality you need to pull him towards you so that he can feel the security of doing things with you there for him.

He's not ready to take an independent drawing class. He still needs to do new things with you by his side. He's scared. I suggest you try to find out why he's scared. It's possible that unwittingly you're adding to his fear by trying to force him to do things he's not yet ready to do. He needs to know that you will be by his side as long as he needs you to be there. Once he experiences success with you beside him he'll have more confidence and be willing, on his time table, to take a small step towards doing something on his own. Perhaps, as he told you, be in the room but not beside him when he's taking a class or going to the park.

But not yet. Stick to his side until he says he's willing and then is able to take the next step.

Continue to talk with his teacher about ways you can support and encourage him.

There is a book titled, How To Raise a Confident ???? Child. Don't know the author but you might be able to find it in the library or another one like it that can give you ideas.

How old is he?
I don't think you canMAKE someone a particular way.
Why not just be there for him right now. I promise you that one day that seems so very soon he'll be a teenager, and not need you at all. And then you won't be able to protect him. You can now- really do it. And pls don't compare him to the others in class either.
Please don't make him feel bad that he is afraid.
Make sure he eats very well- bad food can effect the adrenals, and make anyone of us afraid. esp sugar. Check out WestonPrice and make sure his diet is supporting him.
And then when he is old enough enroll him in a children's marital arts so he has the confidence to use his body.
Not you FAULT, my goodness- he is a little boy- can you just enjoy making him safe right now? He'll be a grown up man long enough.
best, k

My oldest was this way until the end of 2nd grade. He wouldn't participate in birthday parties, fun events, classes, or anything unless I was there. School was drama every day because he wanted to stay home with me. It was a nightmare. Ultimately, I got some advice that really helped us turn the corner. His 2nd grade teacher told me to be sure I always talked about how fun it would be to hear about the great things he did while I was away. Reinforce that I would see him after school and never show that I was upset when he was upset that he had to be separated from me.

Today he is in 5th grad and VERY well adjusted now. He still would rather be home with me and still has reservations about things he is not familiar with but he will do them. Part of what I finally came to the conclusion of is, he is who he is and as soon as I started embracing that rather than stressing over changing him, he began to get confidence in himself because I had confidence in him.

Just let him be who he is right now, don't make excuses for him just let him be and be proud of it. Also remember, it looks like he started kindergarten early, sometimes his being younger will really shine through in this situation. Just give him time, he will be fine.

Good luck!

In my opinion, take it slow. If you are the reason, you have to wean him off you. If you go too fast, you will confuse him as to why you don't want to be the same mom to him. You have trained him one way, now train him in another, but training takes time. Trust me, it will come. My daughter didn't want to go anywhere without me for the first 5 years of her life. I kept encouraging her and never left wihtout her agreement, and she eventually was confident, made new friends and weaned herself off me. Take your time, it is worth the outcome. Good luck.

you want the child to have the boldness of chesty puller?, dont know who he was?, look it up. independence in children is gradual. most five and six year boys are clingy, by the time they get to seven you have to almost duct tape them to get them to hold still.
K. h.

You can't "make" him independent, confident and bold.
You can do various things to encourage him to try new things,
to take baby steps toward being independent.
But, just as you can't "make" a pianist or a portrait painter,
I don't think you can "make" him do anything he isn't ready to do.
Get some guidance about ways to teach him to move toward
more confidence and independence.
He'll probably never be bold.

I would seriously have him evaluated for Sensory Processing Disorder by a SIPT certified pediatric occupational therapist. He is using you, an external regulator, to self calm and regulate his own emotions. The earlier, the better. The brain can chnage rapidly when done as a preschooler. These type of issues will cause learning disabilites in the future.