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Go to www.loveandlogic.com It is all about Love and Logic parenting. Teaching your kids to be responsible adults that are able to make smart decisions for themselves and if they don't, then they deal with the consequence. The choices you give them are ones that are acceptable to you. For instance: Do you want cereal for breakfast or eggs? Do you want to wear pants or shorts today? Do you want to wear a coat today or not? Little things like that. That way they feel that they are getting to make their own decisions and be in control of what they are doing. Not that they are being "bossed around" by their parents. It works pretty good with my son who is 4. I would be happy to talk to you more about this if you want. You can buy books at amazon.com for really cheap or you can go to the library and check out books and cd's to listen too. It is all about manipulating your kids instead of the other way around. :) Hope this helps, would love an update from you. Good luck